Single mum - breakup

I became a single mum at 21 when my son was 1 literally a few days after his birthday (I’m now with my partner who’s an amazing step dad to my son) it’s not easy, but you make it work. If there’s a way to fix the relationship and both of you want to do so then do it but don’t ever get back together just for the sake of the kids/kid because it’s just simply not healthy. I’m always free to have a chat feel free to message me anytime! The mum guilt will come and go with this situation I’ve had it on and off for the almost 2 years we’ve been apart but as long as you are doing right by your son and yourself you will be okay. If your sons dad is sticking around in your sons life it might be best to sit down and have a conversation about how you’re going to split time with him ect now so you’re not having to have that conversation after birth and you’ll both then have a clear understanding with how it’s going to work

I’m sorry you’re going through this it’s not how anyone dreams their first pregnancy will be, I just found your previous post too. This will sound stereotypical but the first fortnight of a breakup (take the pregnancy out of it for a second) is always the hardest for women, most reflect and panic and forget the bad stuff and long to just be together again as that feels like it will solve the problem of your pain, it’s only when you get through that that you can start to see how f’d up it actually was and how much better off you are without them. Men typically do the opposite they embrace their new freedom and keep distracted then it hits them like a ton of bricks much later down the line. My mum left my dad when I was a baby and it was such a power move i’ll always be thankful to her that she did it, he was useless and she knew she was happier away from him and therefore could be a better mum to me away from him.

She remarried and had my sister with my wonderful stepdad a couple of years later and he raised me instead, so there is so much hope and so much time for you to find your happy ending! Your life hasn’t ended it’s literally just beginning girl! You will love your son more than you ever loved him to be honest you’ll see once he’s here! Don’t feel guilty for a second there’s no point staying in an unhappy/unhealthy relationship for a child you’re doing them no favours whatsoever by doing that. You’ve safely carried him for months and are going to give him a great life away from drama and arguments, you’ve got this! Take each day at a time, be kind to yourself, put on a facemask and watch some girlie stuff that has breakups in it so you can get your emotions out, then next week hold your head high and embrace your new future!

Where are you based? Maybe mums in similar areas can post access to useful support networks or to message you privately etc