Non-existent libido or desire for intimacy
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@Dana good to know it’s normal. I really don’t understand women who claim they couldn’t keep their hands off of each other and didn’t even wait for 6 weeks. Made me wonder if I’m doing something wrong.
1 year pp and we've not had sex yet. I really want to want it but I just don't and I don't want to do it just because I feel we should. I've EBF too and it does play a large part I think
With my first baby I didn’t want sex at all I don’t even think I was really ready 6 months pp but I ended up pregnant at 6mo pp. so it took a lot of feeling ready to be intimate. After having baby 2 I barely wait a month pp for sex. It’s just based on how your body feels and mentally how you feel. Give yourself time to heal mentally and physically.
I completely understand this feeling. I thought something was wrong with me because I seem to have lost all sexual desire and I feel sad that I don’t want to do it because I love my partner so much and I know he misses it. We’ve only done it a few times & we are 5m PP. I’ve started reading some books like self help style books about it all to help me understand it because I wish I was the same way I was before having a baby. Hormones do play a big part too so try not to think that you are doing anything wrong
@Leanne thank you, good to know it’s quite normal. Did you get any help from the books?
@Rose true! I’m just afraid the time i need could be months or years.
@Hazel i feel exactly the same. I wish i could do it but i just find it very strange at the moment. I feel like it could take me years as well
I know exactly what you mean about the boobs. 12 months pp now and my husband hasn’t been allowed anywhere near them! The thought of using them sexually whilst they’re still being used by baby gives me the icks!!
@Lauren that’s pretty much spot on how i feel and thought i was crazy. It is depressing that some women are able to resume right away. Although my husband is amazing but i hate to withhold this from him
I haven’t fully got into the book I’m reading yet but there’s so many books out there so I hope something will help me!
it’s normal! i’m 2 months pp and i feel the same way! they say breastfeeding can make it worse too cause the feeling you get from sex you get from breastfeeding. i get nothin from sex right now and i don’t even want it, my partner just has to understand. some women are feeling great straight away, some women take two years!! try and do other intimate things such as cuddles etc and just take it a step at a time!