Is it bad my child sleeps with me?

It depends if you have long term plans to keep her with you. My sister kept my niece with her and she's now 3 and a half with no intentions of going to her own room. Not even sure she has a room now as there's no point

I recommend joining the cosleeping group on here, you’ll find lots of support there

@Chloe I was planning to just let her sleep with me until she grew to want her own space. I have no plans on getting in any type of relationship until she is out the house or at least 15+. Just for safety concerns.

No. We co-sleep with both our girls, my mom did the same with me & my two sisters (there’s a big age gap with us 3 so it wasn’t all of us at once lol). Ppl don’t know this but it’s actually NATURAL AND THE NORM to co-sleep. Look at all of nature. The sleep training norms were started during enslavement. Slave owners separated babies from their mothers after mothers gave birth so they go back to work in the fields & such which is also where the cry-it-out method started too. None of this is normal. We were never meant to live this way. Yes, still be mindful of how you co-sleep like don’t put a pillow where they sleep just leave it as open as possible & we had our babies’ heads up higher on the bed so that the blankets weren’t able to reach up to them to avoid suffocation. So before anyone comes for me, yes still be mindful & take precautions but co-sleeping is completely natural & okay. Not co-sleeping was something colonizers normalized.

Do whatever YOU feel is best Mumma🤍 I (or hubby) will sleep with our almost 4yr old because it’s what makes him happy and works best for our family I did the same with my first, and there just came a day when he was ok to sleep on his own

Just tell the ped your LO is in their own bed. My 2 year old has coslept with me since about 2 months old. We are moving at the beginning of the month and will have a toddler bed right next to my bed. As a parent I made the choice to allow her to cosleep with me. But now she's getting older so she will have her own bed for whenever she feels like sleeping there.

So I didn't realize how controversial co sleeping is.. I wanted to co sleep immediately, but I got scared idk 4 days home & put her in the bassinet. We moved when she had just turned 2.. & what happened? She wanted to sleep with us lol obviously 🤣❤️ so I went from independence & easy bed for her 7pm-6am to.. "Mama, you lay with me for 10 minutes?" However that's all I will do VS my husband will lay with her & pass out 🤣😵‍💫 She's 5 soon & all its taught me, is how short this is. She will be 5 & this baby sister will be here shortly now lol. So I know she won't co sleep with us in September. I did say if by 5 it was uncomfortable we'd think about changing back to her bed, she can sleep and does sleep in her own bed 1-2 nights a week. But majority it's with us. However I also like our independence & will go up in 15 min so my husband doesn't sleep at 8pm lol I see no harm in it. It brought me & my mom closer bc she only allowed me to sleep next to her lol, but my dad wouldn't know/ I'd wake and ask

I think it's important to add you can get bed rails off fb market! Push the bed to a corner in the room & put one at the foot & open side.. built in crib 🤣👏🤣👏 I say it's totally fine especially being past the newborn, your toddler is toddling & sleeps great in your bed? SAME lol. Girl same lol. My daughter since 2 sleeps no issue 8pm latest falls asleep to 7am most days

It’s none of your pediatricians business where your 17 month old sleeps! Do what makes you feel comfortable and what works for your family!

My almost 2 year old and I still cosleep, I love it, for the most part 😂 my sister coslept with my nephew until he was 5 and slowly transitioned out and now at 8 he sleeps in his own room. It took about two weeks to break the habit, used a sticker chart etc and all is fine. I remind myself this is what works for my family and at some point she won’t want or need to sleep with me. There will come a day I will wish to have these times back.

I also Co sleep with my nearly 3yr old

I don’t think so. If it works for you, don’t try and “fix it”. I’m so tired of hearing advice of “this is the best way or your life is ruined” not true at all.

I’m not a co-sleeper. But I understand people that do. I think every child is different and there is no one size fits all

YOU DO YOU AND WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR FAMILY!

Change pediatrician. You definitely can cosleep with your baby until you or baby decide not to anymore... We sleep with our 17 mo and we love it ! He feels safe and he is the happiest baby.

i still sleep with my 17 month old despite everyone elses opinion to get her in her own bed 🤷🏻‍♀️ mine just cries and cries and cries at night she doesnt wanna sleep alone. i mean like who wants to sleep alone? even me and the husband sleep in the same bed..

We co-sleep with my son and he is a little over 1.5 years old, and he's been in my bed since he was about 5 months old.

A problem is only a problem if it is not working for you anymore. Whatever you do is right for you and your kid. If it comes to a point where you don't want this anymore or co sleeping is not working for you, there are plenty of resources to help transition your child to their own room. Many cultures around the world co sleep and I don't know any people who at my age are still sharing a bed with their parents...unless they are very good at keeping secrets 😅

I'm of the opinion let kids be kids. Both mine cosleep and while they are babies now I don't plan to force them to sleep on their own when they're older either. My oldest is 21 months and her fav is to sleep on her dad's side and my son is 7 months old and sleeps with me. We are about to set up a room for my daughter but we won't force her to sleep there, it'll happen when she's ready. I'm not afraid of weaning her off cosleep, she's a really pleasant child and we haven't had any other issues I've been warned about (like weaning off pacifier etc). I think you know whats best sleepwise for your daughter. I can't see how sleeping with mummy when you're that young could ever be an issue. She's basically still a baby.

@Tila then that's absolutely fine, she may grow out of it earlier, but my sister is of the same opinion as you. It definitely wouldn't work for me but what works for one won't necessarily work for another, so do whatever you feel is right!

Cosleeping only seems to be an issue in the states😣 I’m in Wales and I’ve never had a single friend, family member, dr, or anyone else question us cosleeping. When we started around 3 months old the dr just went back over the safe sleep guidelines with me and had a look at my setup to make sure there were no obvious hazards! Everyone I know has done it at least once, most of my friends exclusively cosleep, and nobody has asked when we plan on stopping. I’ve heard you can just get a new paediatrician so I would do that if I were you

If it's not a problem for you, then it's not a problem. Do what feels right. As long as you're being as safe as possible (which it sounds like you are, just putting that for the haters 💅)

We co- slept from 8 weeks old to about 18months and we are still room sharing at the moment ..and she's two years old on Thursday,I love the fact we can have certainty and I can hear her and know she's okay ,it's crazy how some have advised to move babies into another room by 6months to a year ....it scares me the thought of that ...we feel safer having the child in our room till 2-3 years ...now I'm pregnant again so we will properly repeat the same process and as that's what makes us comfortable....its all up to the parent ..do whatever makes you feel better ♥️ our little one is getting her first room soon and its so scary and I'm honestly still going to be checking on her ...

Cosleeping is not going to cause attachment problems or independence issues. It is the complete opposite 😂 The only issue is finding times to be intimate with your partner 🥲 My daughter is 15mo and sleeps with me and my husband. She likes to be VERY close when sleeping. For me, I will transition her to her own bed when her cooking sibling (pregnant with baby #2) is old enough and they can share a room. NO one likes to sleep alone. Even when my sisters and I were teens, our youngest sister (2yrs younger than me) would join one of us to sleep with at night. She is still like this at 29yrs old. If we are sleeping in the same house, she will come to one of us to sleep in the same room or bed 🤣