in Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Loneliness

I finally feel like I can juggle a nearly 4 year old and a 3 week old.. just took me 3 weeks to adjust! Problem is I’m severely lonely and feel a deep dread when I’m on my own in the house with the children. My MIL is staying this week to help as my partner is working away but I can’t stand the thought of next week I’ll be on my own again and my MIL has to go back to work. I’ve suffered with severe PPD in my last pregnancy and I had intense baby blues for the last 3 weeks so I know my head is going back to PPD again I can feel it.. I just can’t manage out the house yet with the 2 girls on my actual own even though deep down I’d love to take them shopping, out to the town and to the park and library but I dread coming home to a empty house and knowing I’ve got the dinner, bath, bottles, bed and night feeds all to myself ☹️ we live on a farm wgich everyone tells me how lucky we are but to me it’s so isolating and all I watch is a view to fields and nothing else. I miss walking to the shops and park tbf but we moved here to give the children a more calmer live to grow up in and a countryside school/ nursery which I know in the long run will be for the best. I miss just dropping my older daughter to get grans and I go out to work and have a night off once a week as well! Ugh I love my girls.. I just miss feeling like a person and not someone here that’s only needed.

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I feel you! Sending hugs 🤗 I wish someone told me how hard & lonely postpartum can be as I never expected this my baby is 7 months and I still struggle sometimes & cry but it’s very normal. Just think you are doing all you can for your babies bringing them up in a nice place, caring for them. Do one thing a day that makes u happy, it will get easier eventually 🩷x

I know how you feel. When I was pregnant with my first, who is now 4, I moved in with my partner in a remote village. I then had my 2nd, who is now 18 months old. My first was then diagnosed with autism and is extremely hard work. I can't drive due to my epilepsy and there are 4 buses a day! I am unable to go out, though, as I can not control my eldest and look after my youngest. I also worry about if I had a seizure when I was out (I dont get any warning signs), what would happen to my girls? I have no close family except my in-laws, but they are in their 80s. I had support from charities to begin with but they are funded for 8 weeks only. I have pretty much given up on household chores! My partner works full time so I am home alone 24/7 and am fed up staring at the same 4 walls!

@Hayley honestly you’ll get to a point when they are around 18 months to 2 years and it literally changes they are so fun and the park, days out and attractions are filled with laughs and giggles and they start to play for around 10 minutes on their own and sleep gets way better 😂 I didn’t enjoy motherhood until my daughter was about 2 so this time I’m struggling again but we will get there

I feel you if you would like, I am at the point where I can get out of the house, I could maybe get a ride from my mother in law to come over to your place with my 4 year old and 8 week old and they can play together. I grew up in the country and love to spend time at farmhouses. We could throw on whichever music we both like, and we can just chill or whatever you want to do. We could even do a picnic with the kids and I could bring the food if you wanted. Just something simple but nice

It’s normal to feel this way. Postpartum can be lonely especially when living in the countryside. Soon, they would grow up and you would be able to move around the way you want. You can listen to podcasts, watch movies, connect with people online often, video call friends and families. If you need extra support please talk to an health practitioner. Personally for me as a Christian I found hope in Jesus when life gets tough. I pray God gives you wisdom on how to navigate this phase.

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