Dad's not helping at night?

Same but if it’s getting too overwhelming for me I just wake him up and ask him to help x

My husband and I did a rota so it would all for me to have a rest. For example I did the nights Sunday to Friday and he did Friday and Saturday . I would do all the mornings. So he had a lie in on weekends and I still got 2 full nights sleep. My girl is 18 months now. So changed it now I’m in work. Maybe could suggest that to him xx

My daughter is breastfed & so was my son, so my other half has never helped at night. My son will now tend to ask for his daddy at night, but he's 3 now & that's only just started & it's only every now & again.

I feel you, I have the same problem 😖 because his job is so demanding I don’t expect him to get up to do any feeds but after work would be helpful..

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture and no one in a relationship “deserves” to take the brunt of it.

If you need the help you need the help, tell him and he will have to pull his weight. They seem to think cause we aren't going to work that we are "chilling" but it's easier said than done. When I was on mat leave I never slept in the day cause I just can't sleep in the day so I was running off 3 hours sleep for monthhhhhs so I just told my boyf he had to help me xx

My partner is literally useless after 10pm and will fall asleep holding him or feeding him so i just don’t ask.. he gets up early for work anyway so he’s been setting his alarm earlier than usual to help early morning but other wise yeah its on me..

My partner is a nightmare like once he’s asleep he doesn’t hear shit! If we were getting burgled we’d be in deep trouble😅🤣 I get that he’s been working all day and gets up early so I don’t mind if he doesn’t do the night feeds. We agreed he’d do the 10/11 or maybe 12 o’clock bottle. But on the weekends I would have to wake him up usually for the middle feed so 2/3am he’s also been up with me for a feed I’d do a bottle and he’d do his nappy or if he was awake and heard little one he would see to him and let me sleep. Though there have been plenty of times when I’ve done all the feeds because it was just easier for me to get on and do it. I remember when our eldest was born and I did all the feeds as one he took too long for a bottle, he would fall back asleep when I nudged him to wake up and he was sleepy which made him so stressy at night feeds and I couldn’t be arsed listening to it lol so I did them all🤣 tbf it helped me recover from my c section a lot quicker!

We had a rota system which was if one changes and feeds our little one. When he next wakes up it's the other person's turn then u both get some sleep. It can be frustrating when they don't pull their weight.

My partner still gets up and makes me a bottle while I change him but then goes back to bed, which I don’t mind as he’s helped get the bottle ready! Especially if he’s crying and I can’t put him down, I don’t want him waking my toddler so him doing that helps massively x

I think it depends what your parter does for work. Mine is a dentist so he needs to sleep as he has back to back patients from 8.30AM all day. I’ll nap in the day if I can or when he gets home if I need it. At weekends if I’m really tired I wake him after the early morning feed around 6/7am and I go back to sleep for a bit. He also looks after our toddler in an evening as I’m breastfeeding x

My partner works night shifts so isn't often here but still will feed him his morning bottle when he's home so I can lay in, and on the weekends we each do every other bottle overnight so we both get a decent stretch of sleep x

I’m in the same situation. My partner promised before we had a child he would help. Now she’s here and he’s back to work, he doesn’t. He actually said to me “what are you on maternity leave for” and “you should be doing Monday to Friday”. I have struggled greatly and I feel very let down by him. Men need to help more.

Me and my partner have a routine so Monday -Friday he will settle her to bed bed and I’ll get to sleep around 9 pm then I wake up for her throughout the night. Then Friday- Saturday I settle her and my partner does the nights while I sleep. X

My husband works full time in a job where he really needs to use his brain & travel. We still take it in turns though. Even if it isn’t our turn for the feed, we both get up & one makes a bottle & the other changes the nappy. Sometimes she only has one feed.

My husband does all the nappy changes and I feed. If I can’t settle the baby and he can tell I’m frustrated then he will take him

My partner helps with nappy changes and settling before he heads to work 7/8am ish and lets me get an extra hour or so of sleep then does the same when he comes home at 10/11pm so I can get an extra hours sleep, then he sleeps through the night undisturbed (sleeping in the spare room) as he’s back at work and working long shifts! You just need to find a routine that works for you all as a family, and communicate with each other.