Libido after breastfeeding
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Thanks Francesca, I have been working on connecting with day trips and planning holidays to get that regular connection back but he is focused on physical attention so we clearly have different understanding of the issue. I agree, talking is key but he is keeping a distance while he sulks so trying my best to be open and supportive and to help come to an agreement on how we can improve things. Just feels so unfair and like another person needs to be pleased over my own needs so gonna stay true to myself and hope we can work something out.
@Estell it’s all about maintaining that connection and navigating this time in life that is just crazy with young kids and a new dynamic. So many people say if you can get through the first 5 years of your kids as a couple you are set for life! It’s all about talking. My husband sulks and it’s the WORST way to handle situations of distance
Thanks for that Francesca :) hard work this parenting business!
I don’t have any advice, but just to say I feel similar. I may suddenly go through a period where I’m interested and then we may not have sex for a month. It’s very confusing, but I often do feel like I’m just going through the motions, if you get me!
The lack of sex drive isn’t the beginning or end for you, the attitude of your husband might be. We were and still are in that hole - and now we have a newborn we are 2 steps forward and 10 steps back. A lot of it is time and exhaustion and also hormones. Talking is key - which is sounds like you are doing. Do you go out on dates or away for weekends or book days of work and have day trips? While the sex is lacking (and it will come back!!) it’s important to connect in other ways