Am I being selfish??

For the last 7 months I haven’t slept any longer than 3 or 4 hours (since my son was born) my son doesn’t sleep and when he does for around an hour at a time even at night, since 4 months his bed time has been at 7pm (he put himself in that routine) then wakes up every hour on the hour then refuses to go back down around 5/6. I am completely exhausted, I heard someone say about making his bedtime 8pm instead of 7pm and stared try to transition that as of tonight, I pushed it a half an hour instead of the full hour and will do for the first few nights then go for the full hour Basically my partner has called me selfish for this as in his words ‘why would you pull him out of a routine that he’s already settled in, I find that quite selfish of you’ All I want is some sleep!!! And he’s obviously not settled in it as it’s quite clearly not working🤷‍♀️

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Absolutely 100% NOT selfish in the slightest!!!

Not at all selfish. Itll take him a little while to settle into it but go for it.

Not selfish whatsoever to make changes to a baby’s routine in order to improve sleep. You’re not distressing baby, you’re not trying to ‘sleep train’ him, you’re trying to get some more sleep and also get him some more sleep.

Have you tried cosleeping? Might help save your sanity 🫶🏼

What does his nap schedule look like?

@Lauryne I was co sleeping but I had surgery last week so it’s not really an option right now, trying to attempt to use this time to get him sleeping in his own bed

@Kayla Bandy he has 3 one hour naps a day with his last being from 4-5

If he was the one up every hour I’m sure he’d think it’s a grand idea to try out pushing the bedtime later🤔🤨x On another note, my baby’s been exactly the same. Bedtime 7pm usually up 6am but is awake almost every hour on and off the boob during the night. Let me know how pushing bedtime to 8 is going. I’ve slowly done it so today he’s gone down at 7:30 and will try 8 tomorrow x

My partner used to work with kids like this and help moms if you wanna pm me I can help xx

Could he possibly be having too much day time sleep for naps, my little one is 6 months and is approx 2 hours day time sleep with last nap ending at 4pm. It was trial and error the last couple of weeks but finishing at 4pm seems to accumulate enough sleep pressure for her to sleep through the night x

Is your partner helping at all at night? Is he up every other hour? If not he can respectfully stfu 🙃 babies need help learning to sleep sometimes and if you are not getting any rest or being able to take care of yourself then you can’t pour from an empty cup babe. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🫶🏻

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