Is this normal?

I'm very sorry to hear you are feeling this way. 🫂 I didn't book a photographer right away, but have something for 8 weeks. They are a bit more alert then and more fun to see on the pictures. Don't feel like you missed the boat but definitely book it, you will enjoy the pictures later. A friend of mine went through a bad experience and it took around 5 weeks for her to start properly bonding with her little one, but it happened. You are full of hormones now and the experience is still very fresh. Give yourself some time and be kind to yourself. If it doesn't start getting easier, definitely speak to your midwife for further professional support

I feel you my daughter was born with meningitis and took away from me no skin to skin it was horrible x

You’re not failing her.. please be kind to yourself.. you care so much and it shows by you worrying about so many things… some photographers allow you up 21 days.

Yes, I understand so much of your experience. My LG is 16 months old and it still upsets me now, not an every day occurance, but yes the feeling is still there. Give yourself a bit of time though because the hormones make everything so much worse.

I had a similar experience and have been feeling all the same things! I think it is normal to feel how you’re feeling when that happens. Your story is yours though so try not to compare yourself to other mums because everyone has it hard one way or another. Prioritise all those lovely skin to skin cuddles now and ride the waves of feelings. I’m 3 weeks pp tomorrow and feeling better but still getting random waves of emotion. Ride it out and try and get as many fun moments with your baby as possible ❤️❤️❤️

Oww its so hard hey 😔 I had a similar experience and I know how it feels 🥺 It will get better though! The feeling of missing those beautiful moment never truely go away and for me I was scared my son wouldnt bond so well with me, My son is now 2.5yrs old and he is such a mommas boy! Hang in there! You guys will bond and your little one will love you so much! I know it doesnt change the fact but I hope it helps you feel a little lighter ❤

Please speak to your community midwife. And may sound strange but, why not recreate the birth again at home so to speak. I planned a home birth, which didn't happen due to complications and ended up in hospital. I was gutted. So when baby was 1 week, we set up the pool with the candles and lights and all got in the pool with baby to do what I had planned. It was amazing and so glad we did it. It's never too late to do things. And my elder son was a Covid baby, we missed out on loads when he was born e.g Dad not staying for long after the birth and having people visiting. Unfortunately some things happen, but make the most of what you do have. Time goes way too fast xx

I had a couple of things happen after my baby's birth made me quite upset like I had been cheated, I also had a very traumatic moment after her birth that will stay with me forever now. I felt the same way you did, like she wasn't my baby and I was just looking after her, if I'm completly honest, 15 months in I still feel weird when I tell myself she is my baby. I also didn't book a photographer even though it was what I wanted, but just before she turned a month I took my own photos and now I treassure them so much. I also went with the flow so I have some of her crying, but I know she was fine after and the photos look so cute now. My only advice is to not get lost in the days, take time to just spend with your baby, watch her, look at her feautures and just hold her. I spent a lot of my time with my newborn moving cause I had to "do" this, that and the other (washing, dishes, etc) and I just wish I spent more time soaking her in

Aww, I completely understand the feeling, and I'm sorry you experienced this. Try not to beat yourself up too much, Mama. I too had a bad birth and after birth experience. I never made a newborn shoot, but the pics I did take when my baby was little, I just used apps to recreate backgrounds, ect, to make it look like a photography setting. I'm now 6 months pp, and I miss the newborn stage already. If you're up for it, definitely book those photos and just know that the bond between the two of you will continue to strengthen. I wish you and your family all the best. Enjoy your baby. You're a great mother ❤️

Darling this could be a combination of hormones and PPD.... Talk to your GP or health visitor! But you are in no way failing your daughter! The fact that you already feel that way suggest you are a caring and compassionate mother! You are doing great! Get those pictures and enjoy the ride girl xxx ❤️

I had this happen, my c section caused me to get very ill and almost die. I developed an autoimmune disease and it took 9 doctors to diagnose me. I was hospitalized for the first month of my girls life. All the family photos are of my in law's with her. It makes me so sad like my post partum experience was stolen from me that I didn't get to enjoy it fully so I completely understand you. Feel free to message me

Honestly just try to breathe I couldn’t imagine not having skin to skin because that is an essential part it’s okay to be upset to miss it! The more and more time you spend together with fill the void over time though❤️

I felt like this after my daughter was born. I had an unplanned induction at 38 weeks, really wanted to go onto labour naturally so missed out on that. After a very long labour, was told there was no way she would come out without intervention. Forceps were attempted and failed, so a c-section was the only option. I was exhausted at this point, could barely keep my eyes open, so when the doctor held her up after delivering her, I couldn't really comprehend what I was seeing. Immediately, she was taken away to the S.C.B.U as she needed a little help breathing. I didn't see her till 8 hours later. I was gutted, didn't get the natural birth I'd longed for, didn't get skin to skin, couldn't give her her first feed or the colostrum I'd collected. It took me a few weeks to connect with her properly. I still feel like I failed her, my husband & myself. We had fertility issues, so I may not get another chance to get it right, that bothers me. We had a photoshoot at 10 weeks and it was so worth it.

Please don’t think you’re alone in feeling this way. It’s pretty normal and everyone here understands. You can be upset and grateful at the same time… it’s not too late to book newborn photos! You can also take some yourself. Take as many pictures as you can.. you’re a good mom

@Kershia I actually love this idea!

100% get this feeling I was in the same boat two years ago I’m happy to message you and support you if you’d like