Tantrums!!

definitely yes to the crying but no to the nap. What’s changed, at least for my tot is activity level. If her morning doesn’t allow her to burn all the energy she has, she won’t ever nap (which in our household, it’s a nonnegotiable… even if it’s just quiet time, it needs to happen). But a lot of tantrums, especially when dad comes home 🫠

@Isadora We started to potty train but we were only on day 2. hes does really well with some accidents throughout the day but expected. Im a sahm so he is fine all day long but the moment dad gets home, he throws these huge tantrums for little things. For example, he gave me a crayon and a notebook. so i took it from him and he started to scream and cry like he didnt want me to take. so i tried to give it back, cried more. tried to color on the notebook, cried harder. like he just was really frustrated and i partly i think its because he cant vocalize what he wants or how he feels. he will be 2 in less than a month and he can say about 10 words. Naps are nonnegotiable at our house as well but the way i put him to nap is laying/cuddling together until he falls asleep but lately he will just lay there for 2+ hours. I end up just giving in because i have so much to do around the house and dinner to prep, etc. His naps are my "catch up" times.

Im having a hard time and I feel so helpless. what can i do when he throws these tantrums? i try to respect when he doesnt want to be held but he just cries more when i put him down.

Let them throw the tantrum. I just ignore it. I’ll go about whatever I’m doing lol. If it’s for a valid reason I’ll say it’s okay to be mad, justify “that looked like it hurt” or “I know juice is good but we can’t have any until after nap time”. Then let him have his fit. My sons tantrums don’t last long bc I don’t feed into them, I don’t try to stand him up or pat his back bc I know he doesn’t want it and it just makes it go on longer. For the naps letting him lay there is fine! I do the same. I used to be worried he’s just laying there awake but my mom reassured me he’s still at least resting his body. I put some water, stuffies and a fidget pop toy in his crib so he can play or cuddle or sleep. That 2 hours is absolutely crucial catch up time!

@KK Thats probably what im doing wrong on my part. im giving him attention during these tantrums. im offering all these options he can do instead but he is consistent with just going through his tantrum. Ill try to lgnore when hes throwing his tantrum. Maybe itll give the same effect as it did for your tot. Thank you 🙏🏽

Definitely try it! I’ve also heard someone recommend not saying anything about the tantrum and just going and starting to play with his toys by yourself. They notice and become interested and will come over to play and forget the whole tantrum. It’s worked for me a couple times! Good luck ❤️ remember babies/toddlers cry to get out frustration. He’ll be okay! My son recently threw a fit bc the dolphin on his show went back in the water 💔😭🤣 he needed to get the heartbreak out 🤣🤣