Failing since becoming a twin mum

I have a 3 year old and now 1 year old twins.. I feel like I am just constantly drained and exhausted. My eldest had my full attention, I played with her all day, no/very limited screen time, all my attention, and she had a mum who also got a break! Now with twins too I can come back from an hour break and I feel like I never left. I find it so hard to stay engaged playing with my 3 year old now. I just feel I have nothing left to give. Does this get any easier? She was so much more advanced than my twins and I wonder if that’s due to the time I have. Will guilt ever leave? Not feeling great

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My twins are now 4 but I do feel like the first couple of years were kind of a blur of exhaustion. The best advice I have is to accept any help you can get whether it’s family, friends, sitters etc. And try not to be so hard on yourself! You’re doing the best you can. Don’t feel guilty if you need to offer them screen time sometimes to give yourself a much needed break.

I second what Meghan has said about the first few years being a blur for me too. If you have help then accept it and try to take the time for yourself when you can. If nursery is an option even if it’s for 2/3 mornings a week I would recommend. I started my girls 2 mornings a week at about 20 months old and despite the illnesses that come with the first year of nursery it did make a difference to me. I sympathise with you and how difficult those first few years can be! Never mind with a 3 year old too. You are definitely not failing 💖 it’s just really bloody hard, something I also think only other twin mums get! I went through a period of feeling more exhausted when my twins where babies and had a full blood count. I was anaemic and had a vitamin d deficiency, supplements did help with energy levels. Adding this as if you haven’t already it may be worth checking xx

Thanks all! Feeling a lot more positive today think yesterday was hard and was having a pity party lol!! People have commented before about how busy my 3 year old is (even before the twins!) I could meet friends and their children would sit with toys and mine would need constant interaction and stimulating so it’s just the way she is ha! And 100% agree people don’t get it if they aren’t a twin mum too.. I just get ‘omg if I had twins I don’t know what I would do’ and when I returned to work last month even had someone telling me their very early scan she thought she could see 2 and cried for 3 days… THANK GOD IT WASNT.. wow thanks for that 🤣🤣

You’re only human, we all have our days. Mine are almost 5 and we definitely still have our days. For what it’s worth as I know it won’t help now but it does get easier! One day you will look back and think ‘what the hell was that, I survived’ 😂 and weirdly miss them so small (well I do) Motherhood eh, absolute rollercoaster xx

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