Post Partum Anxiety
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Try to think of it as not speaking up for yourself, but for her. If she's crying, she wants comfort. She wants you or her dad. Who are they to keep her from her comfort? It's okay to say "she wants her mummy, we can try again when she's calm." And then just take her back or hold out your hands. If they won't, just say "please don't make her more upset." It puts their behaviour back on them and not you being anxious. For anxiety, I recommend checking with your health visitor or midwives to see if there's any talking therapies that are available for new mums. Lancashire has a few programs set up for parents of children 2 or under and they are helpful. Try looking up worry diaries, and classifying your worries into hypothetical, fears or problems. Write them down and try to leave them on the sheet and then ONLY revisit them in the evening to see if they still feel as big, or if they feel smaller when you look back on them. It helped me a lot with my second, my anxiety got so bad I couldn't walk down stairs.
The anxiety is so normal bc of hormones. The stories we have definitely can heightened or lesson the anxiety. I’ve personally been making a saffron and ginger drink to help with the balancing of hormones and it’s helped be more chill and also given myself grace to say no to family events or anything for the first 40 days postpartum You got this. You know you best. Give yourself grace. Being with family is meant to be enjoyable but if you know it won’t be long term then maybe give it a miss this go and video call or go into the family event thinking the best of everyone and trust each thing will fall into place so you can enjoy You got this momma
The hormones are chronic! I have the sunset scaries every night.... and my little one will be 3 weeks on Monday. I hate feeling this way . I have no advice, just came here to say you are not alone. Apparently it will get better... xx
Thanks girls! I’m feeling a lot less stressed today, and I’ve spoke to my partner to make sure she’s the one to set the boundaries with her family! And I will make sure I’m advocating on behalf of my little one, that should make it much easier! Hope you all have a lovely Easter 🐣 🩷
I think feelings of anxiety are very normal in these early days. Hormones are all over the place, plus you’re probably exhausted and not getting great sleep. It’s my 2nd, but I felt waves of anxiety the other day when I thought about my husband going back to work next week and how I’m going to cope with both my boys by myself.