Am I the A-Hole?
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Yeah I did tell her after she found out that my husband and I are just willing to have another baby in the house. But the another hard part is, I’m having such a hard time getting excited for her. 🫠 I was quite broke with my first child and I know the hardship that lays ahead! And I can’t imagine being broke and not feeling stable with my child’s father yet.
I would flip out about that kid being in my house. You are justified there. But to say you're like your best friend's mom is a little strange to me. Sounds like a weird dynamic. If you're like her mom, I guess you guys are raising another baby 🤷♀️ and this girl needs a curfew enforced if she's gonna keep living with you lol
Lol we are really good friends, but I am six years older and I have more life experience I guess. She is 26 and this is her first real relationship. so me having had quite a few relationships, I’ve been married for 8 years and two kids myself. I am her good friend but also kind of like her mom in a way because her mom Isn’t really around anyway so yeah. Hope that helps?
You’re not her mother. You’re her friend. You have to make that distinction clear or else you’re gunna be taking care of this baby. I wouldn’t have someone in my house under these conditions but it makes sense she’s felt comfortable to behave like this because it’s enabled by the not clear boundaries. It won’t affect you just yet because the baby’s not here but hopefully you guys can still be friends after all this.
@Denise yes agreed! Me too! Time will tell. Thanks for your input. ❤️
If she is grown to get herself into this situation she should be mature enough to find housing if you don’t want her and her child living with you if it doesn’t work out with the baby daddy. Like you said, it’s not your responsibility to help take care of another child and if you really only want your 2 kids in your home you’re going to have to let her know