How to deal with people staying over

So my partner's sister travelled to meet our 8 month old for the first time and stayed 3 nights. I did say I think she should get a hotel but there we are... Last night little one cried and kicked off multiple times throughout the night..once for over an hour. I don't know why...I had given Calpol incase of teething. My stress was soooo high because I felt so much pressure to keep him quiet but I just could not. You can even hear him through earplugs. Anyone else dealing with this intense stress and anxiety when they kick off at night or in public? I don't know how to regulate this level of panic

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Yes my son is terrible in public he is non verbal and austic and I get major anxiety because he is three and people will walk up and talk to him and hug him and he doesn't talk and hides and he doesn't do well with touch and she choices to stay with you guys knowing

Maybe this is selfish of me but I wouldn't even be worrying about him waking her up as you've got a baby and she chose to stay with you knowing that / had the choice to get somewhere else! I'd just focus on settling your baby as you normally would when he's up. The only thing that would make me anxious in this situation is if people were being noisy and going to wake the baby up then I'd be telling them to shush 😅 xx

to be honest in my opinion, don’t be too hard on yourself. they are coming in to your space, your routine and your lifestyle. if they choose to stay at your home they cannot be surprised that the little human they are visiting is making some fuss. they are family/friends and should understand. i know its easier said than done but stressing in the moment will only make you more anxious, take a breather and know you are doing what you can to keep your baby happy.🤍

I wouldn’t be worried in the slightest. She chose to stay in a house with a baby instead of getting a hotel.

@Alice exactly 🙂✨

I tell them you're welcome to stay obviously you know night wakings and early mornings are common for us

If she stays with you by choice instead of getting a hotel, do not stress about baby crying, she chose to stay with you. Second, I actually bought nose cancelling headphones for this reason and had to play music to keep calm- I felt like a bad mom at first, but it helps me keep my calm/patience and in turn actually makes me a better mom.

Not only did she choose to stay with you, if she is bothered she can change her mind and go to a hotel at any point during her stay. Stick to worrying about soothing your baby (not the adults in the home) and he will calm down more quickly than if you are distracted or trying to rush him through his discomfort.

I personally wouldn't worry about my baby waking guests up in my house, as they know the score when they come to stay with me!

@Alice agree 100% with this

She’s come to stay with you so I think you don’t need to worry about your baby making noise in your own house! We are actually living with my parents now since my baby was born 3 weeks ago and only once did she wake up my mum because she was screaming for hours. Otherwise every night they said they didn’t hear her. Remember you’re more in tune to your own baby’s cries. I lived with my sister for months when she had her baby and I only remember one night I got woken up

Babies cry, if she’s chosen to stay she should be aware that she’s likely going to be woken by a crying baby. Concentrate on yourself and baby and try to ignore anyone else.

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