Bi husband?
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well that’s cheating, why are you still with him if you’ve caught him sexting most of your relationship? bi or straight, female or male, it’s still cheating, idk if you’ve just forgiven him bcos you think it’s different to if he was doing that with a woman but it really isn’t and he clearly doesn’t respect you. it’s fine for him to be bi, of course it is, but it doesn’t excuse him for cheating with other men x
Bisexuals can be monogamous just because you have more options as a bisexual person doesn’t mean you always use it seems like he wants more of a “lavender marriage” type relationship maybe he’s afraid of what people think.
I’d never be with a “bi husband” or one that sexts other men. I have boundaries. Not sure why you’re with him unless you’ve just accepted it…
He has urges he says but doesn’t want to explore or actually be with a man. At first it was definitely something I thought would stop but then we had kids and it happened more often than before. I was also trying to be understanding as he was curious and I wanted him to figure out what he’s really into to know I’ll be enough for him or if he will always have urges for men too. Now it’s just way harder. Idk I guess it’s easy to say just leave until you’re in it and have kids to think about.
It’s not easy. But as soon as I caught my partner looking/texting other men I did leave. I said that from personal experience because I knew I deserved better than that and there were kids involved.
This is very difficult situation to be in. On one hand, “it is just sexting.” But I know what a slippery slope that can be. One thing can easily be lead to another. For me, I don’t equate sexual exclusivity to loyalty and commitment. So, I would not have an issue with my partners or spouse seeing or being with other people. I would say, just communicate your feelings and know what your boundaries are. It is not wrong to want sexual exclusivity, but I do think regardless of your orientation, it isn’t the natural default for most people, that is why cheating is so dang common.
Staying faithful is not going to be harder or easier for someone if they have a different sexuality. Staying faithful is a choice, not a mistake, not because they need something they are missing because if they need something they are missing then they should always let their partner know and end the relationship thus starting the life they do desire to have. 12 years is a long time for him to have been cheating as well. I’m sorry he has but now you have to choose the life you want to live. If all that time he has cheated, kept things from you and had no problem doing so then if it was me I wouldn’t be able to continue with someone like that as I’d constantly be in doubt, not knowing how to trust and not knowing how to move forward. What he has done will never change but it’s up to you if you want to stay. The only thing I can say is it’ll haunt you for a long time
Leaving absolutely isn't the easy option and I don't think anyone would say it is. However, like Dionne says you have to now choose the life you want to live. He's been unfaithful for a long, long time. Whatever excuse he's given, he hasn't respected you or your marriage. I personally believe there is never a good enough excuse to "stay for the kids" because I strongly believe children need and deserve to grow up in a positive, loving environment with both parents happy and respecting each other, even if that means those parents are separated. Honestly, from this post it kinda sounds like you're going to lowkey continue to make excuses for him and stay with him through whatever, but maybe I'm wrong. Either way, I think you have some tough questions you need to ask yourself and potentially some tough decisions to make, so best of luck!
Doesn’t matter if someone is Bi or straight, if he is gona cheat he is gona cheat. If you have already caught him sexting other people why didn’t you question him, if you did and he said he is straight then he is a dick and you should leave him.
Your man is gay. He’s just not fully accepted that yet. Your choice is whether you stand by him through the discovery, for the kids, or part ways, co-parent amicably and you find yourself someone who only has eyes for you and treats you as you deserve.
Sexuality isn't an excuse to be unfaithful. If you choose to be in a committed, monogamous relationship then your sexuality is kind of irrelevant 🤷🏻♀️ still valid, but irrelevant because cheating is cheating no matter who it's with. If your husband is being unfaithful in any way it's not because he's bi, it's because he's a dick. You allowing this isn't you being understanding of his sexuality, it's you being (and I truly mean this is the nicest, most sensitive possible way) a bit of a doormat 😅 personally I'd be telling him to fuck off and go be unfaithful to someone else, while you find someone who will treat you how you deserve!