Does your child dislike a particular individual?
My son doesn’t seem to like my Mum very much. She rubs him up the wrong way and completely approaches him wrong. If I try to say, ‘he doesn’t like that’ or ‘try this instead’ she’s defensive and says don’t tell me what to do. She’s quite pushy with him with learning things and teases him like play chasing etc but won’t stop when he’s getting scared. We have an up and down relationship and my childhood was the same. It’s disappointing as she won’t accept advice and my son actively says, ‘I don’t like Nan or says go home now Nan.’ Which is obviously embarrassing.
He however adores his other grandparents and is very loving and affectionate with them but refuses any affection with my Mum.
Anyone got any tips?
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I’ve found that when people come over and make a big show and dance my kids take longer to settle but my brother comes in and is so chilled practically ignores them and they are all over him wanting attention
@Shannon that's what my mil is like. She's constantly in my daughters face basically begging for her attention. One example is my daughter picked up one of her books and brought it to me to read it with her. My mil started staying bring it to nanny and nanny will read it with you. My daughter wasn't having any of it. 🙈😂 She keeps bringing chocolate over and it's so obvious she's using it to bribe her to come near her but nope she ain't falling for it.
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From what you said it sounds like your son isn't doing anything wrong and it's her. If it was me I'd try to advise her again and if she doesn't say you will have to go lo contact till she does. Sounds like she's upsetting your son a lot and making him uncomfortable around her. It may be slightly embarrassing that he says things like that but at the same time it sounds like she's giving him plenty of reasons to not like her and though he needs to understand to not say anything mean he also needs to know you have his back. Or that he's not forced to be aorund someone who makes him so uncomfortable and un happy. So many adults don't respect kids boundaries and then get upset when they do something like act out. My mil has always tried to be too full on with my daughter and because of it they hardly have a relationship. When she came over our house on Saturday my daughter ran and hid under her table when she saw who it was. Now her relationship with my mum is the total opposite because my mum let her come to her.