Can’t get over it

I had a miscarriage just over two weeks ago and I didn’t think I was going to feel so bad. I can’t get over it. I keep thinking about it everyday. I don’t really know what to do. It’s painful and I don’t feel motivated to do anything. Every time I wake up I can’t wait to go to bed again so a new day can start. I need time to fly so the pain will be less, but what can I do now? How did you handle it?

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I took time off work. I had a lovely friend who took me on holiday knowing I would be sad but be happy for a distraction. I started counselling. I started writing. I spoke about it so much because it was all consuming. I'm by my due date now and it's awful all over again. I will never be over it. But I live with it. I hope you find something that helps you. It's okay to feel like utter shit right now because it is just utterly shit. I also followed The Worst Girl Gang Ever on Instagram and listening to their podcasts. They also have a book that I've dipped into. They really helped me validate my grief. Sending all of the love at this awful time. I am so sorry for you loss ❤️‍🩹

I started to feel a better once I’d made some plans for the future. I planned a few weekends away so I had something in the diary to look forward to. Made a new health and fitness plans and a timescale when I might want to start trying again. It was also a bit better once I went back to work and had more structure to my day and distractions. I still get waves of sadness but overall in a better place now 8 weeks on. Be kind to yourself and look after yourself xx

I'm 11 months on, and it still hurts. To be honest, time helps, and after I stopped blaming myself and trying to work out why it happened, what I did wrong, I started to realise that horrible things happen sometimes. It's okay to stay in bed and watch tv or read for a while. Just to distract you from the pain

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