Anyone terrified to have another baby

I can totally relate to this! I found the newborn stage extremely hard for a few reasons. I used to get sooo incredibly anxious and stressed with all the wake ups and crying. Especially when I couldn't seem to soothe and settle her. I'm loving the toddler stage! I would love another baby but honestly the thought of it quite frankly petrifies me 🫣 I'm also of the same opinion in that I don't want her to be an only child, plus I've just gone 38 so my time is ticking 🙈 Some days I feel ready and then the next day I'm like noooo. I'm seriously considering paying for extra help, like 'a mother's helper' if and when the time comes. Just to help me cope with the newborn stage better as physically I struggled alot as well as mentally xx

Yes I can relate and don't feel bad. Take your time! That's what other people tell me as well. My partner is 5 years older than his sister and they had no regrets. He never was jealous of her they never had any arguments ever, he's 32 and she's 27 now. And he helped out when she was a newborn and was sleeping through the night, eating independently, potty trained, no dummy, going to Kindergarten. It's a lot easier if you wait a few more years and it's not necessarily true that a shorter age gap is better for the kids. Plenty of people don't get on with siblings even with a short age gap and I think it makes sense that a short age gap might make sibling rivalry even worse as they actually can't possibly all get the attention they need in their first5 years. My baby sleeps like shit right now. He wasn't that bad for his first 2 weeks but I do have an NHS diagnosis of ptsd for his birth and I find it hard to prepare my mind or heart to let myself in that situation again. But we can't even afford a 2nd yet anyway

I am 30 though so feel like I don't have to pressure myself for another 2 years even though I have a lot of conditions that cause infertility. Because we got pregnant before so hopefully it can happen again and if not then that's just how it is and I will be thankful for thr child I have because he really is a handful. I would be lucky if he woke up less than 4 times. Hes never slept through and only twice did he wake less than 4 times. In thr past 18 months. And those 2 times he woke twice the night. Most nights he wakes about hourly, maybe adter a first 1 or 2 stints of 2 or 4 hours... and that's been since he was 6 months old and since he was 2 months old he woke hourly after the first 4 hours. 😅😅😅 and my partner hasn't gotten up for him in the night since he was 5 weeks apart from the night I spent by my dad's deathbed a few months ago.

I am so not ready yet. I'm still very much in survival mode. My boy has multiple allergies, is in hospital frequently, doesn't sleep, still breastfeeds and is a velcro baby, well toddler now 🤣 I'm exhausted and still haven't fully recovered from the complications of the birth either. I'm not worrying about a big age gap though. There's 6 years between me and my sister and it's never been a problem.

I can totally relate to this, for me the first 3 months were really hard. Plus my son still doesn't sleep through the night at 20 months and naps are on and off. I totally agree with you about if I could have them since they start walking then yes, I'd have even 4 more. I am seriously thinking about adopting a toddler once our son is a bit older

There are 5 years difference between my two for this reason 😂

100% relate. I could have written this word for word!