Feeling sad

I literally watched the same TikTok on holiday with my partner and I got so emotional because I’ve always loved it being just us two so I think it’s completely normal. I feel good about it now, but took me a while to get over that feeling. When your pregnant you’re also grieving the old you/the past because things are going to be so different but I’m sure once baby is here you won’t even think of that feeling anymore x

@Shelby I know I'll feel differently and wouldn't have it any other way when my baby is here but right now after watching it I just can't think without being upset or sad for now as that part of us as a couple is over x

I felt sad for quite a few weeks after watching it, so I think it’s normal. It’s grieving in a way :( But try and soak up all the good times you have as just you two before baby is here, I spent loads of quality time with my partner and I think that’s what helped me to forget/feel better. Also make a vow that even when baby is here you guys will still do stuff just you two, still going on date nights etc. It will get better x

@Shelby oh definitely we still will do that. I get what you mean it is another chapter to one closing so it is like grieving. Thank you🤍

I remember watching something similar in my first pregnancy and having the same reaction! We’d been together 8 years before having kids. But once you’re into a steady nighttime routine you get that “us” time back in the evenings. If you have a good support system too we’ve been able to have days of it just being us so it’s not lost forever! Now if we’re without our little boy we just go on about how strange it is the entire time😅 and “what did we actually do with all our free time before”. But it’s completely normal ❤️

@Anna in a strange way I feel guilty on my baby but I love my baby so much already of course and will love my partner much more seeing him as a dad for the first time. It's just I guess the idea of letting go of us for now. I completely get what you said about a routine & support network! Thank you ❤️

I have definitely felt this too. It’s been just us two for 10 years, and we’d got to the point where it looked like a baby wasn’t going to be on the cards for us, had made peace with that after years of struggling and literally just started planning out how our lives would look without a child - so this is very much a wanted and very longed for baby, but also a surprise and now means that some of those other dreams we had for just us two either won’t happen or will happen much later. So I think it’s ok to feel a bit sad for one chapter to be closing while at the same time being so excited for the one that’s starting!

@Becca Yeah, it's all a bit bitter sweet in my opinion the more I think about it. I'm so excited to become a mum and he is to become a dad it's just that letting go of just us for now which makes me sad, I don't want us to lose the point or anything of our relationship because we've had a baby xx

It’s normal to feel grief for your old life, lots of things change when we have a baby. But just know although there’s gonna be tough times, when baby’s sleeping or grow up it’ll be you two again. That’s what keeps me going sometimes, soak up that newborn bubble and enjoy the quality time as becoming a family xx

@Kacey thank you! I really needed to hear that🥰❤️

Your welcome lovely🥰

Definitely not just you I think everyone feels this at some stage I didn’t feel it in my first pregnancy until after she was born and suddenly things change and you can’t do the simple things together anymore and I think that feeling never goes away it’s definitely gets easier but sometimes on hard days I wish I could go back to the simple times of just the two of us but other times I sit here and think she definitely made us 1000% better I think as long as you find the time even if it’s once baby is down for a nap or asleep or getting a babysitter and going out for some food it’s fine xx

It makes me feel better I'm not the only one! Oh I can't wait for it to be our little family but just reminiscing on the times it's just been us for 5 years x