Pinching, scratching and biting

I’ve talked to seasoned parents about this particularly at this age and they all stated to not get angry or “punish” but to redirect redirect redirect. You’re right when you say they’re not old enough to know what they’re doing is hurtful. They can’t even fathom that because that’s not developed yet. It’s just new skills they’re wanting to show you. My parent friends advised me to redirect to a teething toy for biting and a sensory style toy for scratching or pinching. Personally my twins love squishmellows and they’re a great redirect for pinching because they’re easy to grab. I’ve also grabbed my daughter’s tether when she bites and I show an example of biting it so she can follow suit when I hand it to her. I want them to know these actions are okay but maybe not in that way. My son has started kicking while laying on his back and whew those are some blows! I just calmly say no, and move his legs to a pillow or something similar he can kick

My daughter does the same thing and I really need help with some kind of method to redirect

@McKenna redirection has caused some meltdowns for my daughter. She seems to be using me to comfort herself. When she was smaller and breastfeeding it was a bit annoying but most small babies do that. And without teeth or a ton of strength half the time unless I was really watching her I didn't notice. She does good with redirection with other things but I can't seem to distract her from this one(3) thing(s). I am afraid to traumatize her. Or have her harm herself because of it( my son, her older brother gave me some PTSD with this. I know they are different kids but the fear is there)

@Sherissa mine does the same and he doesn't like redirection either. My son will cuddle up to me and then start scratching, hitting and swiping at my face. And he only does it to me. Idk i try to tell him no we don't do that but he just laughs. 🫠 I seriously have no idea what to do. I guess I'm just glad he only does it to me and not anyone else. 🙃

Hmm, that sounds tough! maybe try giving her a soft toy or something to squeeze instead when she wants that comfort, like a little "squeeze buddy" to help her learn gentle touch? here's what the 'Heal App' says.... "It sounds like you're in a challenging situation, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. First, continue to model gentle touch by demonstrating how to hug or cuddle softly, using phrases like "gentle hands" to reinforce the behavior you want to see. Second, try to redirect her energy by providing alternative activities that involve tactile engagement, such as squeezing a stress ball or playing with soft toys, which can help satisfy her need for comfort without causing harm. It's also important to set clear boundaries; gently but firmly explain when her behavior is hurting you and encourage her to express affection in ways that feel good for both of you. Lastly, consider creating a special "gentle touch" game where you both practice soft touches together, makin