Do you believe people can change?
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People can change if they put in the work and actually want to. What work has he done on himself to change? Therapy? Meds? Meditation? My guess is nothing
People can change but they usually don’t, and they have to want to change, and waiting for someone to change usually never pays off
People can change through God and the Holy Spirit. I tried to change myself so many times (before accepting Jesus) and each time it was only for the worst or I only got better for a short amount of time. I think people can change habits, their beliefs, their communication etc… but true transformative change really does take Jesus. And so when people fail constantly at changing when they say they are trying… either they really aren’t trying and they just want to believe they are because they want to hold on to something and they don’t know how to fix themselves… or they get lost in the actual process. “Do not be conformed by the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” It’s so difficult to make those huge changes… and renewal comes through a renewed spirit. But even then… I’ve seen people resist change in every place possible, because it’s uncomfortable to look at oneself and realize that they need help in order to do so.
If it’s the 3rd time then it’s not going to change - what’s he doing to actively change?
He was working 2 jobs and has since left one of them. He seems more calm but it’s probably the case of knowing I won’t tolerate it anymore. It’s hard, they become like what you wanted when you decide to leave the situation but it all just seems like a mirage of broken promises
If it’s stress then he needs outlets. We all need outlets. Friends and hobbies. My man takes his stress out on the golf course, on swinging the fishing rod when he goes fishing, chucking the ball out when he goes bowling, and the thrill of being on his motorcycle and the Adrenalin rush that comes w that, relieves all his stress, he comes back to us happy and relieved. And after a night out w his boys he’s a lil tipsy and horny lol but he does NOT take his stress out on me or the kids. I have my friends to laugh/cry/vent with and I come home refreshed after a night of dancing. Or drinks w the girls, nails done or massage or a couple hrs on the beach watching the sunset and listening to the waves etc Push him to go and relieve his stress in other healthy ways.
I think it completely depends on the person and the environment. If it’s stress related it he doing anything to try and leave his stress? If it’s environment that’s making him behave that way he needs to change his environment or he won’t change 🤷♀️