Neglectful baby’s dad

So I’ve communicated with this man that I do not want him around me or MYYY baby during labor, and he goes to say “but that’s my kid” ya that’s your kid that you haven’t done a damn thing for, hasn’t even bought a $20 pack of diapers let alone a pack of bottles, hasn’t spoken to me for weeks on end to check up on the pregnancy other then to call me to give his new gf reassurance that me and him aren’t together, but didn’t wanna check up on the pregnancy at all after that. idk if these men don’t realize that the support through pregnancy matters most then the support when the babies here, just because you wanna start being a father when the baby is here doesn’t mean you can’t still be a father to them while they weren’t here, it just shows you really don’t give a fk. and the nerve to call me about a whole new relationship you’re trying to get into is showing how messed up his priorities are. Idc about the new gf, I care about the father BEING a father and supporting his baby. AND also the nerve to text me asking for $200 for him to fix his breaks on his car IS CRAZY , as if I’m not already trying to support a unborn baby alone while paying rent along with trying to get my own vehicle, I’m also moving soon from my apartment with absolutely no help, I have to move a lot of furniture while I’m 18 weeks pregnant doing everything on my own and I’m completely exhausted. I don’t need a man’s help but I will call out a man for being irresponsible and neglectful . now it’s gotten to the point im extremely irritated and angry.

Show your support

When you go into labor let the hospital know you don’t wanna be named & don’t inform him that you’re having your baby. If you don’t feel comfortable don’t have him there & don’t put him on the birth certificate. The last thing you need is more stress during labor

I would try communicating all of this to him.. as you are only 18 weeks along. Things could possibly change in favor of your needs from him and for baby. Men are stupid and need the communication. I understand your frustration but it also sounds like you’re pushing him out too. Saying “MYYY BABY” or don’t want him around you.. etc. men have feelings too and men as well feel strongly about stuff. A child deserves both parents. But co-parenting is also about having a good line of communication of needs on both ends of each parent without any bickering and hurtful comments. I hope things change for baby’s best interest of having both parents. & hope things change to better suit your needs while pregnant too.

@Jasmine I have communicated it , it just seems he doesn’t care . And I’m rightfully so saying they’re my baby because I’ve been doing everything for the baby and I’m not pushing him out he’s doing a good job doing that on his own ,it just seems like he was a sperm doner at this point honestly and it is so early to say that but , he does have time yes but he’s more busy prioritizing his now current relationship than his child along with it, that’s what irritates me and I’ve communicated that as well, he seems still not to care, I can’t make him do what he’s suppose to do tho he’s a grown man,!so here on I’m just going to worry about what matters most right now and that’s the baby

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