TTC after first miscarriage

I want to TTC so badly but also have this thought that she was taken for a reason and I should just focus on my son because I haven't been the greatest mother dealing with my postpartum depression and now the miscarriage. I just feel like this was God saying it wasn't right to try for a second baby, and I just. I want to so badly but also feel like I shouldn't because when I'm pregnant I can hardly do anything and need to be there for my son and can hardly be present enough now because my mind is always elsewhere. I just. Im overwhelmed, stressed, and now just grieving, and I don't know how to move forward.

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Time will give you clarity. All these feelings are normal. Might be helpful to talk to a professional about it before trying again if your feelings persist since it seems you might be torn between trying for another one or just having one child

@Dianna thank you I saw a therapist before the loss due to ppd and ppa, and still now after the loss. I know these feelings can be normal. I just feel like I can't make this decision even though I should be able to. I'm so back and forth I don't know what I should do...

It's a big desicion so you're not wrong to be concerned. I'm not going to lie, i had a miscarriage recently and I too felt like maybe my daughter is better off just being an only child because it is a lot of work being a good parent these days and it scares me to be out of commission for my little angel. But now we might be having another baby and I'm excited for the future and for my daughter to have a sibling. I hope it all works out for us both mama. Take it one day at a time.

@Dianna I'm trying. That's all we can do. Is take it one day at a time. It seems like every day it hits me a bit differently.

I would say give yourself time to heal and then make a decision, I had a miscarriage last September and I want to say it took me 3/4 months maybe until I thought ok I’m ready now to try again which was crazy because when I started to miscarry I wanted it to be over so quick to try again but I realised I just wasn’t ready to do that I’d say right now focus on healing from your loss and focus on your son it also might be helpful to speak to a professional because they’ll be better to help you navigate through your feelings take it a day at a time you’ll get there soon enough x

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