when your partner helps babe at night do they keep you awake?

mine just got up (after i had to wake him up because he claims night time is “his shift” but he sleeps through her crying constantly and i’m still the one doing it 99.9% of the time) and instead of taking her in the other room he turned on all the lights, sat her down in the bed, left her wet diaper and supplies out, made her a bottle that he had the water running for for like 5mins, warmed up her food in the microwave, and then yapped the whole time he fed her at full volume, before finally giving her the bottle and sending her to bed. so now i’m still awake while they both get to go back to sleep (which her being riled up took 20mins to fall asleep ON TOP of the time he was helping her which took 25-30mins). but when i get up with her it’s as simple as diaper change, bottle, back to bed. no loudness, no lights on, no mess, and everyone is back to bed within 20 mins. it just feels inconsiderate but he’s the same man that will pick the lock if i go in the bathroom alone to bring her in there and “see what mom is doing” so 🤷‍♀️ what do i know 🥲🤧

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How old is your baby and is it your first?

@Vee she’ll be 15m in like 3 days i’m just not out of the habit of calling her my baby yet lol. but ya first and only

He should by now know how things should be done though.... anyway, what to do comes more naturally to us as moms so I would suggest talking to him about how you feel and letting him know what would be appreciated when he does wake up with your baby (You can call her your baby til she's 50 by the way😅 totally up to you) like what you listed above and have him put it into action and hopefully that helps. x

I hate this. Honestly I continue to do night shifts (7mo) cause I got the routine down and I KNOW my baby will be fed, changed and back to bed no mess abouts. By the time it takes me to wake my partner up I may aswell just do it. Then being in my head wondering if baby has been changed properly, burped & fed enough.. it’s so much easier mentally if I just do it 😂 cos chances are I won’t be able to sleep properly left wondering. But for real your partner should do better. It’s almost like he does it intentionally in hopes that you’ll just do it instead?

My husband does that sometimes and i grab a blanket and sleep in the livinf room. Its highly annoying and inconsiderate. Then he talks to me the next mornjng apologizing but at least i got my sleep.

Yesss , cause he can never get her back to bed so I take her. So by the time I get her to sleep I’m already wide awake while both of them is knocked out. I hate it here

He wakes me up but he does deal with her. I go to bed at like 9:30 and he’s up till at least 1 so if she wakes up in that time he’ll go “Aaliyah she’s awake”. Like ok? I say to him all the time you’re still awake so why the need to wake me up. 90% of the time she goes straight back to sleep after a few cries because she’s found her dummy and that’s all she wants so he literally has zero reason to wake me up when she puts herself back to bed

Anyone else find it so frustrating how they can just sleep through all the crying so by the time you actually wake them up and they get up out of bed you might as well of done it yourself 🙄🙄i sware men are a different breed

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