No village

Currently preggers with second, me and hubby have a 4 yo, we don’t have a village, I’m an only child and my mum can’t help because she’s 70 with health issues. Backstory.. When I had my 1st that was hard because hubby is Irish and my mum is old school Filipino and they clashed when we were living with my mum at the time then my mum gave us the silent treatment for weeks and tension in the house so we had to move out, I probably had undiagnosed PPD.. my mum is a narc so I didn’t have that support I needed & navigating through motherhood and being responsible for this new tiny human. Anyways now.. we need help with our daughter, I’m planning a c-section and a million changes coming up for us.. MIL lives in Ireland & can afford to travel to USA at least once every year and happy to help and support her other son and DIL with their baby. MIL has only come once to Aus and that was when I first started dating her son early 2015. While hubby has a cousin out west they’ve offered to help but can’t during the week of the estimated due date of our baby. Hubby’s cousin said to his mum that when their kids were young and the third on the way.. he told him mum to start saving, she made it work and came over and stayed over. I can’t help but feel jealous, unsupported but I’m trying to understand and not be an AH about it. I just feel jealous that MIL can help and support other family and save and go to other places but can’t save and come to us even if it’s just only her. *Just trying to understand.. and I don’t want to be an AH about it… But being jealous is that normal?
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You are allowed to feel whatever you are feeling. Did you guys specifically asked her to come help?

@Ana Moore no not really but I’m sure son & DIL didn’t ask her to come over, she probably just went because it’s close to Ireland..

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Oh hunni, my heart goes out to you. Because you don’t need all this stress while being parent . This is supposed to be a happy and joyous occasion. But you have every right to feel jealous. Both mothers are treating you guys wrong . If you can’t lean on frens,or if you don’t have frens. Family is supposed to always be there for one another . You definitely need to tlk to your hubby about this, if you already haven’t . And tell him he needs to tlk to his mom about you & his concerns . It’s not right his mom is playing favoritism ! Maybe if yall tlk to her , maybe then she’ll change . I wish I lived closer to you girl, because I would definitely help you out .

@Jan Thank you ☺️ I dint have many friends, they have their own life’s, kids and family but their kids are grown but can’t help 😕 so I can’t really rely on them.

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