Would this make me a bad mom?
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Not a bad mom . But with all you have going on trauma wise , Sex should be the last thing to focus on honestly. Redirect your energy into getting out of that situation permanently and focus on baby’s future not sex .
Not a bad mom at all. Do u. Do what makes u happy! Screw that guy. He ain't no good for u. I honestly feel like it might help feel a little better, too. Im sure he's out doing the same. I thought about it too bc we weren't together, but I held back bc i never loved anyone like him, and I didn't wanna do something that would hurt him even though I was super horny. I really wish I would have thought bc he was out being unfaithful, and that just made it hurt 10 x worse
only thing i would suggest is having the person get tested because anything you get you can give to your baby and men will lie/ not say anything if they have a std/sti.
It doesn’t make you a bad mom but having sex with someone else won’t fix anything. Like everyone else has said you should focus more on healing yourself so you don’t go thru that experience. Also heal for your kids so they don’t experience what you have.
Thank all of you beautiful ladies ❤️ you all are right I should focus on bettering myself , and healing…. Butttttttttttt like @Ashley was saying , it might make me feel at least a little bit better …. Sighs but maybe it’s best to just hold off … there’s just so much stress , to the point the mother of his other children keep calling and texting my phone , they’re not together but I told her if it’s him she wants she can have him.
Dang, that's crazy. My bd other bm is messaging me, too. I completely agree to work and focus on yourself. But that is focusing on urself. YOUR WANTS. Im not saying go hoe out. Im just saying it honestly prolly would help. I know it would prolly help me to disconnect from him.
@Ashley woww what’s up with some of the bm’s out here ? 🥴 crazy work . But thank you mami , I’ll definitely work on focusing on myself .. I’ll try not to feel bad about my wants too.. i wont be out here hoeing , I do have a trusted person .. but I’ll definitely think about it.
Do you have any hobbies? Why not focus on yourself? Sex as a distraction especially while you’re pregnant seems unproductive. I don’t think it makes you a bad person but I would side eye a man who’s willing to have casual sex with a woman who’s pregnant with another man’s baby.