How was your first time?
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I was 6 weeks pp, the day I got cleared lol Honestly, I didn't have any pain at all. My scar is still a little tender, just in general, so we've stuck to positions that don't put additional pressure on my lower stomach.
My first time was difficult (at around 6-7 weeks PP) 🥺😭 Super dry, which also made it painful… I couldn’t stop thinking about my baby so it would interfere with intimacy. I remember one time I cried after orgasm , not because of pain, but because of the hormones??? Idk. And when I had an orgasm I can feel my uterus get hard still . TMI 😭 im sorry but in trying to be as honest as possible because as a FTM I did not expect PP sex to have been this difficult emotionally and physically. I’m 6mo PP and I feel back to “normal” if we were in missionary too long I would start to feel tinglyness on my incision. Side lying position was better and less discomfort. I would say if you’re mentally ready then that’s half the battle. I wasn’t ready mentally and physically even at 8 weeks PP, which I wish it wasn’t the case 😭 but I’m glad you are!! It hindered a little bit on my relationship because he was like 4-5 months without getting some 😩
@Emily Phelps my first birth was vaginal and the sex after was good im just nervous bc everything outside looks healed but I guess my anxiety is like but is your insides. This pregnancy was complicated has been now about 10 11 months we have only had sex like 2 or 3 times im just ready to get back to "normal" if that makes sense. I know no matter what he's gonna b patience with Me but I'm getting inpatient
It took me probably around 3-5 months to feel ready, physically and emotionally. Luckily my husband was not rushing me or making me feel bad he was very understanding and I feel that made it so much better when we did have sex again, it was something we were both really excited for and the intimacy was on a whole other level that just made everything perfect. I was nervous, but didn’t experience any pain from being postpartum, just had to get use to his junk.. it had been a while! 😂
Did have physical sex still like 20 weeks pp. I didn't want to be touched and I was still in pain that made me recoil from touch. Was a difficult time.
I technically wasn't cleared until 10 weeks but we tried at 6 weeks on the dot. It was uncomfortable and a little painful but it got better. Go slow, take your time, and work up to it if you need to! I was always holding the baby because he wouldn't let us put him down and he finally started to go back into his bassinet so I just craved any kind of intimacy from my husband and was ready sooner than I thought I'd be.
We made it until a couple of days away from my 6 week appointment. Definitely was painful at first so we were extremely slow. First couple of times were uncomfortable to get into but now that we’ve done a few, it’s better. Only tried missionary so far.