Feeling so overwhelmed

100% feel you! I also have a 3 year old. Maybe write a list of things you want to achieve at the beginning of each week, example, 1 load of washing per day, hoover downstairs etc and then just do things gradually over the week. I struggled more with my first getting stuff done round the house as when he cried I hated it and felt like I needed to pick him up everytime but as long as they are fed, changed and in a safe space remember it’s okay to leave them for a few minutes even if they are crying to get a few bits done, feel free to message. As mums are brains never switch off, we really do have to think about literally everything!xx

Take it easy boo it takes time to adjust. I just had my 3rd baby and the first two weeks were hard I cried almost everyday . 1 month into it and some days are easy some days are hard. It’s a roller coaster. I’ve learned to let the house get messy for a few hours and enjoy my kids.

Yes, it totally changes your life. I have a 3 year old too. As they grow things will get easier in some ways but harder in others. Easier said but try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes instead of running round trying to get things done when baby naps take half an hour watch your favourite show and have a cuppa. There isn’t much time for us mums when a baby comes along, good job they’re worth it. You’re not on your own! Xx

I can relate. Trying to look after a baby be for him giving him 100 % of my attention. Trying to keep the house clean as well as washing myself, skincare at least as much as I can 🤣😂 It's all overwhelming. I came to conclusion that when I do things - cooking etc I try to tidy up straight away also whatever I can do I do with baby in a carrier. You're not alone. Hopefully one day it will be easier. Until then just hold on and try to not stressed about everything. Baby is a priority. Whatever happens with other things it's not so important. Take care 😘

It’s so hard isn’t it.

Absolutely, I have a 6 year old as well! I just aim to get one thing done a day at the moment for example vacuum downstairs, next day vacuum upstairs. Then on weekends when I have an extra hand I batch cook meals for the week. That takes a huge weight off! I try to get the things done whilst shes awake that way when she naps I can have 5 mins watching rubbish TV or scrolling just to switch off. She enjoys sitting in her highchair watching me or playing with a toy and if she's really aggy fresh air does wonders I'm considering a door bouncer when I think she's ready as she loves being bounced in her bouncer xx

Yep. I've got a 19yo with ADHD and ARFID ,12 yo with AuDHD and ARFID, a 4yo a 5 month old , and a man-child. Plus the oldests GF is here daily , and I've 2 dogs and 2 cats. It's A LOT. I remember struggling with my first and then you get into it and get a routine going so it does get better just the first few months the change is big. I'm not on top of the house or the laundry or even the cooking ( hubs cooks when he gets in from work) but just think of everything you re doing. You're everythj g to your baby right now and pretty much single handedly keeping them alive !

It's such a hard adjustment, even when you've done it before it's not much easier because every baby is different! What I was really struggling with and stressing out about was A. Making dinner without him fussing, getting bored, ultimately crying to be picked up and B. Being able to tidy up 'properly' (meaning to my standard, my way). My baby can hold his head and torso up incredibly well now so this week I started back carrying him when it's time for me to do those things and the difference it's made! He's so happy in there but I have my hands completely free and it doesn't hurt my back like front carrying does so I can do it for much longer and I don't feel aggy and hot. There's no fix all solution ofc but finding your back carrying (might even be back carrying 😅) might make things feel so so much better.