The spanking debate

Tend to the hurt child first, make sure they're okay, put the other child in time out while telling them why they're being put there (depending on the injury I might skip the timeout and go to the fire station with both kids to have a paramedic give us medical advice). Haven't dealt with biting thankfully but my 2yo can sometimes be a bully towards my 9mo and will push him down or hit him, time outs are how I handle it and usually she'll apologize to her brother after she's calmed down.

@FairyMother 🦖🌸 I feel like it would be very hard to keep from yelling in that kind of situation though, like pushing and even scratching ok, but biting on the face and leaving a mark like that… I don’t think I could keep from yelling

Wow, this is so bad. The poor child is bleeding, I wouldn't be recording it like this piece of shit mum!!! I don't agree with spanking either I have a 3 almost 4 year old and never spanked but if my child did this and let's face it, she looks about 3 years old. She knows what she's done, she would get a spank on the but and she would know that she's done wrong and never to do this again, this is disgusting. Poor baby

I can hear the mother laughing. No wonder the child thinks this is OK with a mother like that. I feel like punching the mum square in the face

That's awful 😔 I wonder if this kind of thing had happened before but maybe less severe and hadn't been dealt with at all

Firstly, I wouldn't be shoving a phone in the face of a distressed, injured child. I would tend to the injured child first. I would clean and treat the wound and get medical advice (because the skin is broken and human mouths are full of bacteria). Once that had been addressed, I would find out what happened (as best as I could), from both sides. The children look quite young, and it's probably not the best idea to let them play unsupervised together. I would probably have a talk to the child who bit. We would talk about what is and isn't acceptable. We also don't know the whole context of what happened here. I'm not saying it's OK to bite, but perhaps the other child was hurting the biter, or teasing, or snatching, or something else, and was bitten in frustration or self-defense. Young children have no impulse control and limited communication skills. This is why supervision is so important with young children.

Oh I might definitely be yelling during that too, just not spanking 😅. I skipped the part where I raise my voice to tell my daughter to back away from her brother before checking to see if he's okay 😳 I don't plan on yelling but it does happen sometimes 😬

I agree with spanking but not as a first measure of discipline and it depends on the age, timing of the behavior, and the degree/type of the offense Biting is a normal stage that toddlers go through and they do not understand they are hurting someone at first. It’s an emotional reaction where they do not have higher brain function yet to regulate and have good self control I would teach empathy. How to remedy the situation when the other girl is ready. I.E, showing the girl who did the biting that the girl who is hurt needs love and attention. Teaching how to apologize, how to make amends. If the other girl is afraid, I would remove them from each other but still in a visible place where they can see comfort and empathy being given to the child who was hurt at a safe distance. But “punishment” would not work here. It’s very likely the girl who bit was also distressed in some way by the way she is behaving.

@Becky yeh it’s actually pathetic of the parent to just record it and laugh

@Janis that’s an interesting perspective