Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy
Honest, unfiltered, and in real-time: what women like you are talking about. Peanut group chats, support, and posts on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy.
Why are people so judgmental
I posted a question on here genuinely trying to get answers because I want to be a good Mom and do the best I can for my kid and I want more than anything to be a great Mom. I understand that my own upbringing can influence my instincts and not be what is actually best. I want to be better than my parents were. I wa...
You won’t like my take: just because your religion says to be “fruitful”, it makes you an IRRESPONSIBLE parent if you knowingly can’t afford future children but keep pumping them out with no plans on how you will meet basic NEEDS.
Don’t say it’s the economy. People have been planning to have kids knowing dang well they don’t have enough money to meet basic and essential needs of the child.
Thoughts and opinions: children don’t know they’re poor/rich
Meaning you don’t tell them anything, they come to their own conclusions
Egg collection
I have to trigger tonight for egg collection on Thursday. Really nervous for the procedure, has anyone found it okay? I’m also worried about the trigger and if it will hurt 😂 I’ve been doing gonal f and fyremadel and been struggling a bit with the injections.
New partner
I’m in a serious relationship where we are talking about kids and living together. I have a child with someone else that isn’t involved at all but is on birth certificate. My partner would love to adopt my child. He’s the one that has been a dad to my child more than the actual dad. How do we go about it? I’m in UK
Annoyed
Anyone who doesnt hand me me child back the second i ask fills me with a rage I did not know was possible 🙃 like give me my baby
Second time mum struggling to bond with newborn
I have a 2 year old daughter and newborn son and I don’t feel a bond with my new baby. I feel like I love my daughter more and it feels awful to say this :-(
Do you think the government is going to have to start incentivising having children?
Because of how expensive everything is getting and how many people are either choosing not to have any children or putting it off until they’re in a better financial position do you think the government is going to have to start financially encouraging people to start having children/ have more children as has happe...
Christening? Yes or No?
Should I get my child christened, personally I am but my partner isn't but he seems keen on idea, I'm just wondering if waste of money, I hadn't planned it but my partner mentioned it 3 times and he would like them to be. Did you get yiur child christened and Would you get them christened if had chose again? Any b...
Stepson/Half brother to my 3 children & custody
I have a 3 week old, and 18 month old, and a 4 yr old with my husband. He has a 6 yr old son from a previous relationship. Ultimately I cannot stay with my husband anymore because I have tried and tried but it seems it will never work out with my stepson. He is rude, has horrible behavior, manners, hygiene, he inten...
transfer day
anyone transferring next week? let’s be transfer buddies! 🤞🏼this will be my first FET! super nervous! Can’t believe we’ve finally made it this far.
People who grew up with separated parents & who had to go between houses...
How did it affect your childhood? Did you look forward to having two 'homes'? Do you resent your parents for not trying harder to make things work?
Visitation once baby arrives
Going through a break up, due in march next year, how did you ladies sort it out with visitation once the baby arrives ?
FET
We transferred our one and only embryo yesterday! We are praying that it sticks! My Beta is on 11/11
Only child only
Did/do you like being an only child?
Anyone done this? (See image)
I'm considering doing this but I can't help but think the inbox will get full quickly 🤔 If anyone else has done this How's it going?
2 under 2 😬
Anyone else got two under two incoming? We should only have that gap for two/ three weeks and I am so incredibly grateful for another (all remaining well) healthy baby but to say I’m nervous is an understatement 😅
More waiting
Anyone else feel really deflated with how long this whole process takes? I am very grateful that I have 5 embryos in the freezer, but I just had my follow up consult to be told I likely won’t have my frozen transfer until January. I know I am lucky, but I can’t help feel really sad and deflated that this entire y...
Passing baby around
Any advice on what to say at family things when people expect to hold the baby? My mother in law always ends up holding him for ages and I'm not ready for that yet and want to grab him back every second 🫣 recovering people pleaser! What can I say to avoid giving him round to people? Thanks!
Fun idea 💡
Make your baby a email and email them everyday or whenever something big happens or just whenever you feel like it. Then give them the password when they turn 18 so they can relive their early childhood memories with you
