Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy
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More waiting
Anyone else feel really deflated with how long this whole process takes? I am very grateful that I have 5 embryos in the freezer, but I just had my follow up consult to be told I likely won’t have my frozen transfer until January. I know I am lucky, but I can’t help feel really sad and deflated that this entire y...
Passing baby around
Any advice on what to say at family things when people expect to hold the baby? My mother in law always ends up holding him for ages and I'm not ready for that yet and want to grab him back every second 🫣 recovering people pleaser! What can I say to avoid giving him round to people? Thanks!
Fun idea 💡
Make your baby a email and email them everyday or whenever something big happens or just whenever you feel like it. Then give them the password when they turn 18 so they can relive their early childhood memories with you
Just wondering if someone could help? Or have info that could help. Can you get in contact with the family who have adopted a family member? (UK)
I have a nephew who went into care 8 years ago. He was only 1 years old. Anyway I’m not in contact with my sister (the mum) due to her being on drugs and alcohol. She had no contact with him. I think she used to receive photos and maybe an update on him but she’ll no longer receive this due to not a steady address (...
Requested topics to help out another mama and family 🙌🏼🙏🏼
How do you deal with racism within family as an interracial couple and towards your kids ? If you have had a more positive experience, pls feel free to shear also. We want to talk and hear from all perspectives ❤️🤞🏼
As a mother, do you feel yourself becoming more and more protective when you hear racially charged hate towards a group of people you or your child are a part of?
Yes I'm talking about that political statement referring Puerto Rico as an "island of garbage". I am married to a strong, loving Puerto Rican man who was born in Puerto Rico. My son is therefore half Puerto Rican. And after hearing that from a politician, it angered me to my core and my protective side is just comin...
Only child vs. multiple children
Hey ladies! I only have my almost 3yo daughter, and love our family dynamic. I keep being asked by all my friends when we'll have another, and my husband and I keep coming back and forth on it. Truth is that all my friends seem overwhelmed, exhausted, and always mention how much their kids fight with each other. I k...
2nd time mums
anyone else so care free this time around!? I’m literally pretty much ready but I remember doing so much preparation with my first I was packing and unpacking my bag multiple times to check I’ve just chucked a few bits in this time and jobs done😂
Spending time with dad
Can anyone give me some positive stories of their childhood, or the situation with their kids now about spending time at dad’s then back to mums. When I was a child I lived with my mum and never spent much time away from her, I was always settled in one safe home. Me and my 18 month old child’s father have separated...
Does your family check on you?
Do you expect your family to check on you during your pregnancy? I guess my siblings and I dont really check in on each other even when I am not pregnant just kind of expected they would be curious or show more concern since I am pregnant. Sometimes I feel like an only child even though I have siblings.. were all ju...
Would you have another child?
Those of you who had your first child in May 2023, how have you found parenthood so far? Of course, I’m sure you’re besotted with your little one but I’m personally finding it extremely hard (the good days are the best days but those bad days are the hardest) Does it make you question whether you could realistically...
What’s the most hurtful comment or piece of unsolicited advice you’ve received about your parenting?
a) “You’re spoiling your child.” b) “You need to be stricter.” c) “Are you sure you’re doing the right thing?” d) “Just wait until they’re older…”
Starting weaning next week!
I'm starting weaning next weekend! I'm so nervous. Is anyone else starting next week? What are you planning on starting with?
If you saw a toddler running towards a busy street and his 8 month pregnant mother running after him yelling his name and for him to stop but she clearly couldn’t catch up to him, would you stop the child or let him run by you?
This happened to me this morning and my neighbor wouldn’t even help. I couldn’t help but think she is racist because she’s Asian and I’m Black. She looked right at me as I ran by her and wasn’t even phased. I’m so disgusted by people who are racist. I wanted to punch her dead in her f****** face. UGH 😤
Explaining death to a child
So unfortunately my grandad has passed away and I'm struggling to think of a way that is suitable to explain to my 7 year old. She loved him so much and I know it will be hard for her as it is me but I just can't put the words together to tell her.
Post FET
Hey guys , had a frozen embryo transfer on Friday. When did you guys start feeling symptoms?
Controversial Topic
I AM NOT LOOKING FOR OPINIONS. Do not say why you dislike it, why we shouldn’t, I don’t care. Incog cuz my son should have privacy for this. So my husband and I are expecting baby boy #2 and we’re on the fence about circumcising. He says yes because he and our oldest are and he doesn’t want them to look different. ...
You can tell
You can tell how much someone wanted to be a parent by how much they are involved or treat their grandchildren.
Egg donor experience
I have low AMH and am considering using an egg donor. I'm really nervous about it, but I think it might be my only hope to have a baby. I'm reaching out to anyone who has used an egg donor to get pregnant. 🙏
FET ended in chemical
I had the phone call yesterday to confirm what I already knew, my HCG levels had more than halved. We were so lucky for our first fresh transfer working first time resulting in our beautiful almost 12 month old. I think we were a little too relaxed that our FET was going to work because of how well it went. How ...
