Husband Masterbating in His “Sleep”

He probably thought you was sleeping and didn’t expect you to wake up and played dumb because he got caught. I saw a few moms post about masturbating while their partner sleeping so I guess it’s normal. If it makes you uncomfortable and/or upset try talking to him about it And maybe y’all can go to therapy or something

I personally & honestly don’t think theirs anything wrong with what he’s done. He may of acted oblivious as he’s either embarrassed you’ve caught him as he thought u was asleep or he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. If this had upset you then ask to talk about it but If he’s acted as if he has no clue what your going on about maybe leave it as he seems embarrassed.

Why do you feel a type of way?

Everyone needs a little relief 😌 he's only human 😅

I feel like he acted oblivious out of embarrassment. You should masturbate with him. I’ve done it with my husband when we were in a sex rut and the experience was great. It helped us get back the passion and desire.

What has caused the emotional strain with you?? Cause love, if it’s not a deal breaker then you should let it go. If you still love him and want to continue to spend your life with him then show him. Just pop it in your mouth or sit on it real quick and see how fast those emotions disappear. 😉 I’m serious.

At Least He’s Doing That Instead Of Cheating!

The man has desires and you’re not full filling it. My husband doesn’t masterbate infront of me but I know for sure he does it because just like you- I don’t feel emotionally connected to him either. We probably have sex 1-2x a month. Go order a nice toy online and give yourself a good orgasm for your troubles! We need to go to therapy for this emotional thing though sis because it’s not healthy.

Are you sure he wasn't sleeping? It is possible that he was doing it in his sleep I've known men like this

Play devils advocate, say to him your thinking about getting a new toy you heard was supposed to give the greatest orgasm for females. Since clearly the love life has declined, your love tank is empty, but wanted him informed because it's a bit pricey for the toy....then just sit back and see how he responds. It's going to be like a chess move with several moves he could make but his response will give you your answer... if he's unemotional and says do whatever....then buy the damn toy and let him walk in on you using it.

Easy fix. Have sex with him.

@Katie 👏🏽 I am speaking out of love and I know it’s not exactly easy to do but letting things go is so liberating. Like who has time and energy to hold onto past trauma. I mean it’s so exhausting just handling every day life with a husband and kids. Shoot if I could have sex everyday I would. My husband has ED. 😩 Enjoy what you got.

Omg I can't believe some of these comments...I'm sorry but she has every right to be upset. I was extremely unhappy with our sex life and had made it very clear to my husband, only to discover he was masterbating a lot. He would masterbate then never want sex. It was a huge blow to my self esteem and almost ruined our marriage. To this day, our sex life is a big void for us. Saying it's better her husband masterbates or for her to have sex with him...Shame on all of you. You don't know the full story. I'd have sex with my husband almost any time he asked but he preferred masterbating so me "just having sex with him" or "I'm not fulfilling his needs" is complete bullshit. Way to shame the woman here though... way to be supportive. 👏👏👏👏👏

Thanks for all your responses…..just an update… I did confront him…had a massive argument….he stated he was unaware as he was sleeping….however stated because of all the frustration and lack of sex he wouldn’t be surprised if he was doing it in his sleep. Then went on to say why I didn’t have sex with him instead of getting upset. He just wants to be more physical with me sexually and he tries to avoid asking because I’ve turned him down so many times. He also admitted he had a wet dream since our argument. I think on my part why I don’t feel the urge for sex is because he has tendency to piss me of which is really off putting and I feel like giving into sex is me “rewarding “ him for being such a ass sometimes. And I honestly don’t feel sexy since having children I’m very insecure about my body as he’s flirted with other women who doesn’t look or have any similarity to me

Ah this makes more sense. Girl if he is masturbating why are you upset? He’s not having any other type of sex…. He wasn’t even watching porn? Just masturbating and now he’s going to be too scared to do it and have to hide it. When it could have been a more open and comfortable convo.