Husband watches porn

I’m sorry he’s so inconsiderate

Ya, my husbands addiction almost cost him his family. It wasn’t him not touching me it was him always getting his and I’m never getting mine. I was objectified for a long time. Then after a few years I said if you don’t change/get help it’s going to make you cheat and then I’m going to leave you. Long story short, he cheated. I was leaving him. And I decided to give him another chance and it’s been almost a year and he has been so much better to me. It shouldn’t take you leaving for him to see what he is going to lose, but sadly for some they really don’t understand the gravity of their actions. My man fixed his issue and we worked together I hope you can do the same.

Porn isn’t normal. It’s just consider normal in this era because of the internet. I’d consider it an addiction if he’s choosing content over you. My advice, find proof. Confront. And then give your ultimatum. I found out my partner lied to me ( I have a zero porn rule) he lied to my face over and over until I found undeniable proof (he thought he deleted it all) there was a bit of a blow out, but we’ve come to an agreement now. Don’t give him a reason to use porn. So yeah. That’s my experience.

This is the one thing I have ever given my husband the option to watch it or lose me. I explained how him watching it made me feel and it was part of my boundary. I don’t understand the need to watch another woman if you have one whom you love. It psychologically messes with your brain and is not apart of a healthy relationship. You should state to him how it makes you feel and how if he continues to watch it that you will leave him. You deserve so much more.

Go on YouTube and watch the documentary called ‘raised on porn’ … it’s not normal to watch porn idk why people have been convinced it’s healthy. Maybe share that video with him and tell him you can’t accept this behaviour anymore.

What does he say when you tell him you’re uncomfortable that he’s not having sex with you (assuming you’ve told him)?

He denies it all now, we don’t go on each others phones. As in im open with him going on my phone but heaven forbid I touch his. He’s really secretive, I know a lot of people would leave in this instance it’s just not viable for me to do so. I have told him how it makes me feel he says he doesn’t do it but it’s really obvious when he goes off and does his thing. He blamed me last time when I said about sex. He said that I don’t make any effort into the way I look anymore and dress like a boy I’m on maternity leave and I’m at home alone with my baby when he’s at work. I don’t have that support from family to take the baby off my hands to even have those long showers and look after myself. In fact I just feel like everyday is just me surviving to get through the day

The fact that he said he's not attracted to you if you're aren't done up calls for a break up. That's a red flag to me.

He might have an addiction have you talked to him about getting therapy??? I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this

He is having his cake and eating it, in all directions. He seems to think it’s ok to belittle you, have his fun and consistently be secretive. He most cause problems in other areas of the marriage. The negativity will trickle down onto the child, consider your options and what’s best for you and your baby’s future.

The moment you believe you can’t leave a man is the moment you accept shitty behaviour and become a door mat… don’t let him think you’re going to put up with him no matter what… ask him if he values your feelings and relationship truly and why is he not attracted to you naturally that’s so strange of him and ungrateful. Maybe he thinks women always look like what he sees in porn also you can watch this https://youtu.be/zgmQHz0OqCE

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Man the fact you have to be “done” up and looking pretty is beyond a red flag, girl there is guys out here that would be giving it to you even if you are disgusting covered in baby throw up and haven’t shaved please don’t settle for this and being belittled 😕

sounds like he might have a porn addiction problem. porn is a normal thing in my opinion. i even watch it with my husband and yk. but your boundaries if they’re NO PORN then he shouldn’t watch it. addiction happens when you stop your normal life to watch it. so your husband not having sex with you and chooses porn is 100% sign of addiction. he needs to be in therapy. he is being very inconsiderate to your feelings and needs to get his shit together because this is grounds for divorce in many situation. i’m so sorry love 💓 we can always talk if you want to text

i used to watch porn, but i stopped after reading tons of articles and real life stories about how porn can cause addiction. This dependency can not only mess up your mind but take control of it and also destroy your relationships. And it definitely creates unrealistic expectations about sex. I don't want to come off as harsh, but maybe your husband is addicted to it and he doesn't feel attracted to you because he has this unrealistic idea of the "perfect body" or "perfect vagina" based on what the bodies he sees on porn. It's not normal to act the way he is acting. Definitely talk to him about it! I hope he listens and understands you!!

I’ve returned to this post. Defo sounds like an addiction. Though we had that arguement my partner would never turn me down. I’ll be greasy and smelly and look like shit. I haven’t worn make up for him in almost a year. If I give him the word he’d take me. That is definitely a red flag, he showing he thinks porn is reality, expecting you to perform instead of you two having an intimate moment

There's a lot of comments of trying to talk to the husband about it but no no noooo... just leave. He's not attracted to you without makeup. That's horrible! He should want you without all that. You know what to do it's just the decision to do it.