He kissed me. Should I tell my husband?
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I wouldn’t tell him if you want your marriage to work it was a kiss and was not something you initiated and would only cause a lot of issues in my opinion I would however have a serious talk about why he’s not wanting to have sex because that really is not normal My first husband was like that and later found out he had a porn addiction and was the reason he didn’t want me
OH MY GOD IM JEALOUS OF THIS WATTPAD STory😭😭 girl go get your John!! He seems like he’s gonna care about you and make sure you’re always happy
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I would tell him. You need to be honest. And absolutely end your marriage before you start anything with anyone.
1st of all… what man doesn’t want sex? I would be concerned there. It’s a yellow flag. Maybe even orange. 2nd, if you’ve talked to you husband about your feelings and he still doesn’t make you feel wanted I think you have your answer right there. 3rd if it did mean anything to you I would tell him.
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I know, it’s weird. But it’s also hard cuz I believe him when he says he loves me. He’s the kindest person I know, but sometimes he can be really thick. I’ve threatened to leave him too, nothing’s working. And to answer your question - I’m not sure if it means anything. I only let it happen because of what I am missing with my husband…
Tbh I would tell your husband. Because if he finds out any other way he will most likely be angry and not forgive you for not telling him.
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You’re right I wouldn’t want it to come from anywhere else
Don’t tell him I do feel like it would just cause problems but do talk to husband about the sex issue maybe try going out together more or take a small vacation from One another go stay with your parents or go have a girls weekend maybe that might help
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Gurl I stayed at my mom’s after I gave birth for a month and I’m home now and it’s been 6 weeks! 😭
Thank you ladies for all your responses and words of wisdom. I will think long and hard over this weekend xxx
as a smut lover I would love to hear more… read more.. let it become more.. BUT real life. You have a husband who deserves respect. Talk to him. Tell him if you’re unhappy. Sexuality is a huge part of every relationship. We need it. He can’t just leave you and hope you’ll be alright
Girl, go get John. Clearly you and your husband aren’t happy and incompatible sex drives are the downfall of many a marriage, so you’re not alone. If I were in your place, I’d pursue something with John, just please don’t cheat. Go your separate ways and call it a day.
Of course you should tell him. How would you feel if he hid something like this from you? Your marriage already seems to be suffering dont add dishonesty into the equation. If you want to leave then tell him the truth and go. If you want to make your marriage work then have a serious conversation dont keep.anything in. Tell him how you truly feel. Either way he deserves to know.
@Chloe plenty of men go through stages of not wanting sex. Men suffer from mental health too or other general life problems.
Personally I wouldn’t tell but I would make myself happy. If my marriage was stale I would try counseling to find out why. If he’s not willing then it’s over. Go get “John”. You deserve to be happy.
I don't think telling him will do any good. I do however think telling him that you could possibly want a divorce if things don't change could help? It's tough when you have different needs. Could you go to couples therapy? Or atleast tell eachother your needs and work on full filing them?? Not every couple matches the others needs but if you love them you atleast try so him being lazy is not acceptable! I feel for you, must be a horrible situation to be in! Xx
The thing is you never said you WERE happy. Also looks don’t equate to happiness in a relationship- meaning just because you’re pretty doesn’t mean that there won’t be intimacy and or sexual problems in a relationship - also - are you going to see John again - if there’s mutual physical and sexual attraction and he fills the void your husband can’t - it sounds to me like this is the start of an affair - I’d be honest with your husband about how you’re feeling and take it from there - only you know if you should tell him or not.
You’ve answered it yourself saying you couldn’t answer. You didn’t say you were unhappy but you didn’t say you was happy either. This guy seems to care about you a lot I think maybe there’s a chance for you two(obvs depending how you feel) I’d speak to your husband about it. The attention should be coming from him no one else and if it’s not there’s a big problem. Hope you sort it all out x
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@Mimi that’s what I’m saying. I didn’t mean it in a “all men a dogs” type of way but obviously there’s an underlying issue as to why he maybe doesn’t want to. Whether it’s depression, stress, Porn addiction like someone else said or literally anything else. Thanks for letting me clarify(:
@Chloe sorry i misunderstood!
I felt like I was reading a book and got invested🤣 sorry! But I would be honest about everything in a deep talk and lay it out plain and simple. It happened and you immediately dispersed BUT you’ve come to a point where you want more as a woman and not being pleased sexually is really putting a dent in you mentally. I can 100% relate to you at this very moment! I haven’t been touched in almost half a year, I’m also 9 weeks pp! It sucks! I have a high drive and his just disappeared overnight! Toys aren’t even doing it for me anymore! I find myself crying at times because how tf did I get here?? I can’t live like this but I love him SO much I can’t think that sex would be why I’d end my relationship with him. Maybe talk about opening the relationship or taking a break ? I’m not gonna say just split cause you sound like you still really love him and ofc there is children involved but this may give you some insight if it’s worth ending things or not. Sex is great but also is a good man
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Hey thanks for your warm response x I’m sorry too, it sucks doesn’t it? - Sexual creativity just being put on hold. Feels like the femininity suffers. Yes, it happened and I made it clear I didn’t want the kiss. I got away for a bit while my baby was with my mom so that I didn’t wallow in the other bedroom… and I didn’t know John was gonna be there. I haven’t thought of this guy in years and if we were meant to be, it would have happened a long time ago. Yeah, you’re right and I don’t wanna leave either. I would be throwing away too much for just sex. It feels stupid. I just need to find a safe way to communicate to my husband that this isn’t working anymore. As for couples therapy, he says he doesn’t believe in that kind of thing, especially talking about our sex life with a stranger. He needs to work on his listening and I need to insist that he makes some changes around here and remember that the grass is pretty fucking nice right here ✨
In your post you mentioned you let him kiss you. So can you clarify how you made it clear you didn’t want the kiss as mentioned in your comment above. You mention if it were meant to be it would have happened a long time ago I can’t agree with that as everything happens when it’s supposed to happen and things happen for a reason. So if it were meant to be it’s happening now
Refusing couples therapy is him being lazy still and refusing to acknowledge there's issues in your relationship. Everytime I have a problem with things my partner does, he acknowledges, apologies, explains and changes because he loves me and that's call EFFORT and I do the same.. your partner has no excuse for refusing you basic needs and not giving an explanation and I think your being pretty damn patient! Personally I would have gone down the sensitive route and tried to fix it and if that didn't work then I'd tell him he isn't meeting my needs, I love him but I want more and if he doesn't meet my needs then there is no longer a relationship. You cannot keep being miserable because he continues to ignore and neglect you!!
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