Bf tinder?

Maybe ask a friend in the area if they have one. Or have someone set up a fake profile and sit it your area and then see if he comes up

Go on his phone and try signing on, and do forgot password to his email address.

Don’t ask how I know this but 😂. Basically download tinder and put his email in (if you know it) or whatever it’s asks for to create a account maybe number I’m not sure but last time I done it , it was an email but Yh anyways … basically put that in and then select forgot password if there is an account created with that email or number then it will obviously say password reset sent and if there isn’t it will say can’t find an account with that email ect … xx

Problem is he has a lot of email addresses and I only have access to a few so I doubt he’ll use a main one 😩

I haven’t really got anyone I can ask around me, I feel like my friends would be so judgmental for even me wondering if he was an account lol

This feels childish. Have a conversation with him!

@Caroline not everyone is comfortable enough to just ask something like that …. You think it’s childish that’s fair enough but this lady doesn’t x

Why would he tell the truth if I ask? Someone I’ve been in a relationship for 6 years with…. Nah babe of course I’m not on tinder trying to cheat on you…. 😂

Couldn’t agree more ! I asked once before and got the oh ofc I’m not I’d never do that why would you think so low of me and it got flipped on me 😂 only to make an account myself and find him on there cheating on me ! 😂

@Georgia oh I’m so sorry 😔 Was he using his real name and picture? How easy is it to delete your account? I don’t wanna create a account and then get accused of cheating myself 😂

And if you can get on his phone dowload tinder and it will log you in automatically if you’ve recently deleted the app ….x

Girl. The way to do it... Create a fake email first, then create a tinder profile.. Set you idea person as exactly what they are and set the miles away as within 1mile.... You're welcome!

Real name and picture and location 🤦🏽‍♀️ men r dumb and Yh I made a fake account got some random image off google and then when I was done I deleted account permanently x

I love how we r coming together as women on how to catch your man out on tinder and we’ve all done it whoops 😂

Thank you so much everyone. I’ll try all of these out on his iPad on Monday when’s he’s at work! Thank you all again so much!

@Marie Cullen I know he had tinder before we got together so it’ll probably be on the list anyway unfortunately as same Apple ID all this time lol

If he deleted the app and then reinstalled it - it will give you the date it was reinstalled. Hopefully it’s nothing for you but I know how horrible it feels being paranoid. I’m one that needs to know or at least try and find out or I go insane lol xx

@Caroline men lie so even if she did talk to him about it he could say no. Or it just starts a big ass fight. No one what’s that

@Marie Cullen where do I check the date? I tested out on my phone and searched for Facebook as I know I’ve deleted that a few times. But it’s saying 2020 as install date, and I’ve deleted it a few times since then lol xx

@Caroline I would've said the same a while ago, but not anymore! My brother cheated on his wife for months, she's confronted him (and the other woman) multiple times when she was suspecting but had no evidence and she's been lied to multiple times. The only time the truth actually came to light was when she's done something 'childish' like this and actually caught them in the act. They are both super intelligent people, very successful, can have conversations and nothing like this has ever happened in their 13-15 year relationship. Sometimes even the most responsibile adults just do the stupidest shit and then when it's time to face the music they just don't own up to it.

He has a lot of email addresses? That's already a big red flag.

Let’s just say this was back from my toxic days of when i wanted to know but all i really had to do is ask him. He gave me his phone and i did everything everyone is saying. But i used this website and even paid the money, it worked (even though he wasn’t on there and was telling the truth)😂 it’s called cheaterbusters.com

@Suswara yeah he uses loads for gaming stuff and he’s terrible with passwords (or so he says) He’s lied and hid flirty messages in the past and cheated/tried to. Recently admitted he had a porn addiction after I found out he’d been watching it. He recently made a comment about tinder. Saying how we sh oh kid both joking for a laugh and joked that he wouldn’t get any swipes. So my paranoid brain tells me he’s already got one, he’s just trying to get me to get one so he doesn’t feel like it’s properly hidden as such? Does that makes sense or am I losing my mind? 😂

if he's sending flirty messages and trying to cheat why are you wanting to check if he's on tinder? you already know what kind of man you're with girl. when someone shows you who they are, believe them

@Ash i agree!! Sometimes the answers are right in front of us, we just don't want to believe/accept.

Well she may have allowed it in the past and she doesn't want to allow it going forward. And wants to know if it is still happening. I think the real question is, regardless if he's on tinder or not now, are you saying you are ok with spending the rest of your life with a sex addict that makes you feel less than? I would say you should set your boundary on that regardless of tinder. Maybe go to therapy to figure out how to set and enforce them particular to what you are comfortable with? Me personally it would be changed behavior plus weekly therapy to understand why the compulsion is there.

He probably has an account on onlyfans, check that too

@Ash because I’m stupid and chose to believe the sorry’s and that promises he’ll change. I know if this was someone else I’d be telling them the same thing you are. But it’s harder to admit and accept when it’s yourself 😂

@Suswara I’ve looked into onlyfans with the emails that I know of but there wasn’t accounts linked to those. We’ve had talks about therapy before and I should’ve accepted his offer on that. But I was too proud and/or embarrassed to go 🙄

I’m so bloody thankful for incognito on here otherwise I wouldn’t be able talk about it at all. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed I’ve let all this happen. I never thought I’d be the girl that stays even after they keep showing me who they are 😞

@Marie Cullen yeah it shows in purchased but has the original download date xx

Hey, not sure if this has been suggested earlier. Also, not sure if this works on the iPhone, and if it does I don't know how. However, in a Google phone or android you can usually go to "History"on Google Chrome. At the top you should be able to see myactivity.google.com. That page literally shows you all the apps that were used, open, websites visited, including time and date. I must say that it's quite long but sometimes it's not very accurate. But it should give you an idea in terms of his activities. Even if tinder is not installed on his phone, you will see that he visited. If he has an iPhone surely you should be able to check that as well, somehow. Otherwise, I would just ask him and see his reaction, then explain what made you get to that thought process. I'm also very direct, "give me your phone I want to check something". If he has nothing to hide he will let you see it. He has been unfaithful before so you can tell him your suspicions if he asks or plays the "trust" card.

You said at the top he has many email addresses, you can check on his phone or laptops if he's connected to any email addresses (or you can ask him to log in) and search key words on the search box like "tinder" or other dating apps, and you should see an email from the app such as verification codes etc. You can also see if he got verification codes via his phone number by checking "messages" on his phone. If he's a Facebook user, you can also check his activity on Facebook. Some people can't be bothered to use the email and password and literally open apps or log in to apps through Facebook: Settings & Privacy > under "Your Activity" you should find "activity log" and "device permission" > click device permission and put his password. If you don't have it, ask him to out his password. If he doesn't accept it then you know. I would say, it's not nice to do it. But if it gives you peace of mind knowing then it is what it is. I personally check hiding, but sometimes I ask him and do it in front of him ...

... for peace of mind. Good luck girl ❤️

@Jessica thank you so much! I had a look on his phone yesterday (I asked him, and he had no problems giving it to me) he’s always said I can look whenever but I know how good he can be at hiding/deleting stuff. I’ve looked at his emails for tinder/onlyfans and didn’t find anything (but obviously could be on a different email I don’t know about) I’ll check out the Google and Facebook activity the next time to can xx