Tantrums

My son will be 4 in February and he has come a long way with his horrible tantrums. The approach I used was always try to remain calm and talk calmly no matter how hard it is, when your voice is soothing it’ll help sooth them down some even if it takes a few minutes and I would also ask him if he wanted a pediasure (he loves them) but would tell him you have to be a big boy and stop crying and be good if you want the pediasure. He still has tantrums when I tell him no or stop but they have gotten so much better and just always talk calmly with him or time outs work as well lol

my daughter since turning 3 and her new sibling she just wakes up grumpy and is very easily getting mad. she will start any activity and then get mad and stop doing it, or also will say things r “too hard” when she’s done them before many times. her behavior is rly rude and i feel really bullied 😂 but i am struggling bc i don’t want to be overly harsh w her bc she’s only 3. also feel stressed bc we live with family and i don’t want her being looked at as “not disciplined” but it’s really like she only understands so much and it’s hard to keep her attention. she’s now on a no phone ban and we have a behavior chart but have had them for over a month and she only has 4 stickers 🥲 also a lot of i’m not gonna be ur friend etc. she’s been hanging out with neighbors who are a bit older (5) but i don’t know they’re a bit mean. they told her chubby people don’t deserve hugs and she refused to hug my mom bc she said she was chubby.

i tried to explain with her but she’s 3 and her attention span i really can’t tell what’s registering and what’s not and how serious to take things tht r concerning to me.

she will be very sweet for 30min-1hr of her time which is like her usual self but can easily just get mad. is this normal ???? 😂😂😂

and how do people deal with other child influences ? i feel anytime she’s around other kids she takes a new behavior from them and starts to copy it 🥲🥲🥲