College as a SAHM

Hi everyone. I am a stay at home mom and I wanted to get your opinions on going to college as a SAHM. I know that more than likely I’m going to have more kids and will stay home with them and homeschool. I had 3 semesters left to get my bachelors and it’s something I would really like to do since I want to become a speech therapist, which requires a masters. I want to gather opinions on whether it’s worth it to get my degree now even if I won’t be using it for years, or is it better to complete all of my education at once? My husband thinks I should wait because he’s concerned I might change my mind about my career path and he’s also concerned about student debt. Is there anybody that has a college degree that they’re choosing not to use right now and maybe not for a while? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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Do it. Here's some reasons, from practical to emotional.
* It will be easier to do when you have fewer children & don't have a 2nd job as a teacher (homeschool, & being a sahm is a job)
* Taking exams, writing papers, etc are their own skill; your grades will likely be better if you do it before more time has passed
* There are a TON of scholarships, some for women, some for moms, lots for all. Apply to as many as humanly possible
* Who knows what the future holds? Your husband could be laid off, become temporarily disabled, or you could have a family circumstance requiring additional income. If it does become necessary for you to do paid work you protect your family by having a degree, which does usually make getting work easier
* Your dreams matter too. It sounds like your bachelor's is very important to you. What a beautiful way for your husband to support you. We want to be able to tell our children THEIR dreams matter, we sometimes we have to show them that!
There're more reasons but those are some!

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I am in my last semester for my bachelors and immediately in January will start my masters. I’m a stay at home mom that works at the same time. Why am I doing it? For security. My hubby said wait and in a nice way told him to kiss it. There are grants (you do not have to pay anyone back) that you can get from your state from simply being a mom. My hubby makes a lot of money to never have to worry about anything. I rather struggle a little bit with balancing life out temporarily than (hopefully never) find myself in a situation where I’m divorced and have 3 kids alone.

My grandmother had 5 kids and has 3 degrees. Does she use any of them? No. My grandfather was a good man and never let her touch a door and never wanted her to work unless she truly wanted to(which she did eventually) . Never stop even if the degree is never used.

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I’m getting my master’s degree online while being SAHM to my 9 month old. It is a lot of work but 100% worth it!! Pursue scholarships and talk fo the financial aid department to figure out the best plan. I would recommend finishing your bachelor’s degree no matter what because even if you change fields it is still going to boost your pay. Wishing you luck!

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Following I’m looking to go to college for two years before I have another child. It will help us financially support more than one child on one income:)

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I have a masters degree and I’m a SAHM. Im proud of having an education it’s something no one can take away from me and something I can fall back on later in life if I needed to. Plus, we value education and it’s a value we want to pass down to our children.

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Im currently in school for nursing i currently only have 1 child and i would like to get my schooling out if the way while they are young and i dont have as many for less distractions

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I’m currently in school online and I say go for it ! You will have hard days but it will be rewarding at the end. Apply for financial aid and scholarships !! If you take online courses you obv won’t need to pay for dorm living so there’s a good chance finance aid will cover most if not all expenses. This fall semester, I am taking three courses (8 credits) and between financial aid and scholarships, I did not pay a dime. Over the summer, I took three courses and again financial aid covered all costs plus I had a few dollars left over

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

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AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

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BLW Advice!

Did anyone else baby have a hard time with textures when it pertains to solids. My son is 9 months and he still only eats the food that is mashed or puree. Do you think this is a phase? Or does anyone have any tips?

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I cheated on my partner of 3 years the other day, our baby is nearly 2. I feel completely awful about it. It was not a planned thing, just an in the moment situation. No excuses or justification, it was wrong. He knows exactly what happened and it’s hurt him so bad. I really want to make it work with my partner and he does with me. We’re so young and in our early 20s. I’m just so worried things will go wrong. Has anyone else been able to make a relationship work after infidelity? 😭

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