Motherhood

Gosh, where to begin. I'm so thankful for my Rainbow baby. She is the light of our lives. With that being said, how do you get past the mom guilt? I want to sweep and mop my house . Cook and have some me time. How do you add baby into chores when you feel like you have to do something with them every wake window else you feel like a failure? I feel like I always have to interact with her Sometimes, I just want to watch a YouTube while she's playing on the floor, and I'm doing dishes. How do I have my peace of mind (clean home and mind) with baby? How do I read a book I just bought when baby refuses to nap without me ? Help!!

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You have to sort out your priorities. When my son was first born when he would nap I would clean and I quickly got exhausted. I learned the second time around when they nap you nap. Dishes and house work can wait. Also remember it’s super important for them to I dependent play. Throw a blanket on the ground with a few toys and do the dishes or whatever you need to do! I have really bad anxiety when my house is a mess. So I run around like a maniac keeping it clean and entertaining two toddlers. I am burnt out beyond belief. I don’t recommend that 😅

My baby is almost 5 months old and I’m just now learning how to do anything if you seen our house a few days ago you would have screamed and ran away but now it’s cleaned and everything my daughter still takes naps with me but I’ve been also taking her on walks in her bassinet stroller to help her get tired and when she falls asleep in it I get about 45 minutes alone

Knowing your own personal priorities are super important!! My son is the center of my world but I also feel guilty for not doing more around the house it used to be spotless now it looks like a dump. I just always think about how I’ll feel when he’s graduating high school one day and moving away to college. I won’t remember the laundry piled in our room or the sink of dishes calling my name right now. I’ll remember the sweet snuggles during a contact nap or the extra hour of playtime we share together. It’s silly to say and sounds like a cop out but the chores will always be there, babies are only this tiny for such a short time. Your priorities may be different than mine and that’s okay too! Just think about what is most important to you and it’ll help you feel less guilty about the things you don’t get to. You can’t do everything, which is a relief in a sense. Motherhood is a very demanding job, but I’m sure you’re doing amazing ❤️

And if something is really getting on my nerves chores wise, I’ll set my son up in a chair with some toys or bouncer and set a timer for 10 minutes to work on cleaning near where he’s sitting. Once the timer is up I get him out of the chair and we go play together. It’s amazing how much you can get done in 10 minutes, truly!

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