How to hide my personal emotions form my kids better?

I also saw my mother like that and sometimes worse ,hiding your emotions and feelings from your child is no good from personal experience I’m glad my mom was open because now I’m more sensitive to emotions and can help people when needed and I don’t feel like I don’t know what I should do in times like those , hope it helps. It’s okay to show our children that we’re humans and that it’s okay to cry sometimes

I would still let them know how you feel, make sure they know the right way to comfort you and handle the situation. Kids are just mini adults that absorb information, not everyone is 100% all the time and they should know that. It’s just a matter of how you let them help you and allowing them to not feel like it’s their responsibility to “fix” it. Maybe telling them “hey mommy isn’t feeling well emotionally right now.” Let them know it’s your responsibility to care for your emotional well being. Idk how old they are so it’s a little difficult but you shouldn’t feel like you have to hide your authenticity from them either. In my mind it’s not fair to laugh with me and then cry alone, it’s lacking vulnerability

I try to show them the whole process of working through feelings, explaining for example“I was feeling overwhelmed and sad, but after taking a few deep breaths I realized I was hungry too so ate and now I feel a bit better” and sometimes “I’m sorry I snapped at you; that wasn’t fair or right.” It feels important to model self-awareness and accountability. Feelings are going to happen no matter what

I think it’s important for them to see you have these emotions without putting the burden on them. Mommy’s crying because she’s a little sad, not because there’s 3 invoices that are past due and your period is coming so you’re super bloated and craving sweets but not wanting to spend excess money.

@Mellow idk maybe it’s just me then I have a problem putting others feelings before my own when they should help me too at least and I don’t want our kids to feel the same and to prioritize their feelings too

Not like I ask for help emotionally from them they give me hugs when I’m real sad but I don’t want them to feel like they need to ya know idk if that makes sense

I totally get it! You got this though ! Just know that it’s okay for kids to see mommy and daddy cry or just be sad sometimes it teaches them to be able to communicate feelings better 💜

@Monét no of course my parents did tell their issues when I was like a preteen but I feel it was seeded before that idk but to anyone maybe assuming..I’m not telling my toddlers I’m lonely or worried about our bills

So I had a few times when I was unhappy with their dad that I would get very overwhelmed and cry and both of them used to give me cuddles and I would just say "mummy is a bit sad but she's okay, thank you for the hug that's made me feel better" it's part of them having empathy aswell and it's healthy to show emotions. My eldest is very emotional about things, crys and his tv programs if it's remotely sad and I give him hugs too and let him know it's okay to be sad xx

@Jodie seeing comments like these kinda make me realize I see my empathy and sensitiveness as a weakness and problem i need to definitely work on that because I don’t see it that way for others

I wouldn’t hide your emotions, I’d just make it clear every individual is responsible for their own emotions and all emotions are valid, but not all actions are.