Yes, stool softener is your best friend and hydration. I didn’t take mine and slacked on hydrating and Severely regretted it. Started up again and so much better.
I had a severe 2nd degree tear and had pain until about 6 weeks. Occasionally, a bowel movement would be painful even at 2-3 months, but it mostly had subsided by then.
Stay hydrated. And take a stool softener.