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Can someone tell me where exactly is motherhood “fulfilling” and “joyful” and a “blessing”? cuz i’m 3 years deep in this and i just feel exhausted and mentally drained and ready to smash my head thru the wall. my whole entire body aches and everyday i wake up mad that im not dead. I grew up constantly being told “wait till you have kids and you’ll get it all back” so i just feel my kids are nothing but punishment before i get sent to hell. i’m confused about where all these gushy feelings yall have come from?? i feel scammed

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It sounds like there’s things going on beneath the surface. Since giving birth I have been going to therapy. It’s beneficial and would help discover your feelings and help you work through them. It sure has helped me with that as well

Please reach out to someone you trust or your doctor ma 🙏❤️ ppd, ppa etc.. can come at really any time. Take care of yourself ❤️

I would recommend speaking to a doctor. It sounds like you need support. As Trinity said, it may be post natal depression, which can hit later on. What you’ve described doesn’t sound healthy or ‘typical’ so you really need someone helping you out here. Good luck.

Motherhood is hard. It’s hard and sometimes it doesn’t feel fair for who you are as an individual, I get that. But having children of whom you love and are helping understand the world is the blessing. I needed help with understanding that, and that it’s not about me anymore (which kinda sucks too not gonna lie) but I’m copping. I have things to help me like my partner, my family, and maybe a drink or two here and there. Feeling like you want to die isn’t what I would call the normal or default. It is good to talk about this with someone. If not someone you trust and know, then maybe a professional. It does get better. You just have to be willing to put in the hours and do the work. It’s hard But you will get through it.

The joys of motherhood are all the time all day in all the little loving moments. There’s so much sweetness and tenderness in three year olds. Sounds like you need therapy, more support, and regular doses of me time. Do you get that? Are you exercising regularly? Going for walks? Getting sunshine? Are you up all night doom scrolling? Comparing your life to others? Are you ungrateful and envious of others?

I am so sorry you’re experiencing this. Please please reach out to someone you trust to talk.

It’s definitely not all sunshine and rainbows and unicorns but laughing with my toddler every day is the medicine I need

You are depressed. 100% for sure. You need to reach out for help.

Can I also add well done for coming on here and saying how you feel. That’s the first step to feeling better, being honest with yourself. Sending love ❤️

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