Is it just me?

So I'm feeling so hurt at the moment.. so my husband randomly asked me to send him daily photos of our new born (tomorrow he will be 1 week old) while he is over seas. I logged on to my fb and saw I had a message from his best friend (they've known each other since they were like 5 years old). We are pretty cool but like not close. So I apologized in my delay of responding to her message. She understands how it is to have a new born. She has 2 kiddos of her own. Sonwe get to small talk. And I asked if she has seen a picture of my son. Only because I wasn't aware that my husband had reached out to her to let her know we were expecting. She ended up telling she demanded he send her daily pictures and how excited he is to have this baby. This is where I feel hurt. He left over seas not happy I was pregnant. Him not being with this pregnancy. But to now find out he was/is telling his best friend how excites he is thru voice messages. He doesn't voice message me....He'll just send text here and there. Am I wrong to have my feelings hurt?

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Sorry, pressed yes that you *should* be hurt. Being apart with a newborn is hard as is, and to feel emotionally disconnected from your partner - I can’t even imagine what headspace this would put you in. I don’t want to insinuate anything (especially because they are childhood friends) but it definitely raises red flags. This is something to get ahead of, don’t let it linger. Wishing you some peace of mind and for this to be resolved soon and easily ❤️

He might be excited now that he is an actual daddy. It does change men but not sure how he feels about you. It's up to you but I'm too vocal I'd call him out on it and paint the picture without "whining" too much or "nagging" you have to be strategic on how to explain it to a man since they listen differently.

I miss read it and pressed yes, but I should’ve pressed no. I would feel hurt too ❤️ I’m sorry you are going through this. Talk with him, maybe he will understand how you feel.

@Dianna this is our 2nd child.

Sorry I accidentally pressed ‘yes’ as I scrolled down. I would have said no. I would confront him about that. It seems like he is lying but to who, you or his best friend. I also think it’s okay to feel jealous of the fact that you don’t get the same amount of attention. I get best friends are important but so is your spouse. He should be showing you more attention. And I’d be upset that you had to find out all this stuff from her and not him.

@Allana I'm definitely not jealous of the bond they have. I very much respect it, always have since he introduced me to her 15 years ago.

Okay well that’s fine. He still should have more regular contact with you

Maybe it’s just their preferred form of contact? My husband voice chats one of his uncles all the time, but he doesn’t do that with one else. Have you asked him if he would want to voice message?

Sorry should have pressed no

I hit yes but I meant that it’s ok if you’re feelings are hurt bc that’s a messed up situation.

Accidentally pressed yes. No you are not wrong to be hurt by this. His behavior is confusing

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