How do u heal?

It takes time. I left a dv relationship after 8 years and u need to give yourself time to grieve and heal. And mostly accept what’s happened to you. There’s no time frame. Be easy on yourself

@Sara im trying 😔 he keeps telling everyone that im just looking for attention and that whatever happened didnt happen

That’s standard practice. I was the Crazy ex who abused him! Where are you from? I may be able to recommend some places you can access for support x

@Sara im from Birmingham but moving to warwickshire next week & yeah his told everyone i abused him when hes got a past if dv relationships x

Have u accessed womens aid? They do a brilliant program called the freedom project. Really helps you understand the abuse. They helped me with non molestation orders too. Inbox me if you wanna talk further x

@Sara yeah i did that & i have non mol against him now but his telling professionals that my statement is lies 🙄

Try and get an independent worker through womens aid. They can advocate for you so it takes stress of you. What he’s doing is just another form of abuse. My ex would get arrested. Then boast about it on fb. Then still abuse me. He never got charged. The fact you’ve been to court shows you have been believed which is Amazing. Surrounded yourself with people who love you and would never doubt you. I’m always here to chat x

Honestly I haven’t got any advice other than you aren’t alone, I’m in the same boat❤️

Let him say what he wants, you know the truth and that's all that matters