Christian mamas what would you do?

I grew up with my uncle not my family and he was a horrible horrible man anyway long story short I decided to cut all ties with the family last year but when I got married I needed him to sign some stuff for us etc . I gave birth almost 6 months ago and none have came to visit my baby or even made the effort to get to know him. He’s just sent me a message telling me “if you are at odds with me and everybody in your family how will God listen to your prayer” . This has been on my mind and left me so angry because of the pain I have been through with him and his family. He’s said the reason why my baby is sick and my marriage might be ending etc is because of the rift between me and them. Life has really been testing for the past 30 years of my life I haven’t had a good month ever in my life where I haven’t cried or depression or medication etc. I have apologised to them even when they did me dirty , abuse or kick me out multiple times. Is God really punishing me because of all that? And if I am a bad person why isn’t God just taking me out rather than letting me suffer so much?

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Also what would your answer be to even that message ? I have left it blank because I’m so dumbfounded

God doesn’t “punish” anyone. Especially not His children (meaning those in covenant with Him). Rather we suffer the consequences of our actions. Sometimes God will exercise judgment but judgment ALWAYS comes with some form of mercy, restoration and redemption. Cutting off your family alone won’t make God punish you or not hear your prayers. Boundaries are healthy to have especially as believers. We aren’t called to be doormats. The Bible says be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. It’s spiritual abuse for your uncle to say “if you cut us off, God will do this or that”. God isn’t calling you to suffer for family. I do believe you should pray to God about how to deal with your family and do what He tells you about that. We should always seek peace and reconciliation. But you have to tell them what they did wrong and why you’re placing certain boundaries

Agree with above. He doesn’t punish you but things happen because oh past consequences. I think what you could do is forgive your family. Text them and let them know but also you don’t have to talk with them still you can keep that boundaries but let your heart be free of all the burden they caused. We suffer through challenges because God knows we can deal with it. We are stronger than them. So we just have to pray and trust God

You can say I’m not at odds with you. I forgive you for everything you’ve done. But for my family and I we will keep yall at a distance to keep our mental health safe something like that. Idk if you’ve talked to him at all recently for him to even send that or does he even have a reason to send that to you like does he know about your life at all? It could have also just been God speaking through him. Even though it’s annoying and you don’t have to be friends but forgiving is what God calls us to do

Is your uncle a Christian? I ask because it’s feeling a evil the way he’s talking about your marriage and your baby being sick. I would pray that the blood of Jesus protects your family and your marriage. Forgive him in your heart and truly forgive him because that’s what the Bible tell us to do. You don’t have to hang with him or his family but forgive and be respectful. Pray for his good and that’s all you can do.

So that's a lot of pain and Im so sorry you are dealing with this. God is a good father and he's not randomly punishing you because of your choices. They sound like ties you needed to cut off. Healing and forgiving them is important, but not until you have processed and healed. God has promised to draw near to those who seek him. You might be making bad choices because of the trauma, but otherwise it's not connected to your past at all.

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