Don’t feel bond/connection

I will say for me from personal experience. That was the first sign and the earliest sign that I had that I knew something was potentially wrong, and I ended up being diagnosed with postpartum depression. I would highly suggest, reaching out to your doctor and talking to them about it and any other feelings that you might be feeling

I think having a difficult pregnancy and delivery can definitely impact how you’re feeling right now. Give yourself time and don’t feel too pressured to feel these emotions that people talk about. Everyone is different and honestly, even for me I feel like my feelings for my baby doesn’t fall neatly under the banner of “love”. Pregnancy and childbirth is a complex and often traumatic experience for many women depending on health, complications, social support, stressors at home, etc. it doesn’t need to be a Hollywood type experience and that’s okay. Give yourself the grace to feel things at your own pace!

I think it’s okay if you take a little longer to get there. Sometimes that takes time. I don’t know if it’s instant for everyone. I think you will get there. Like you mentioned in the message you would do anything for your baby. That’s a sign I think that you are on your way to bonding! 💛 I think everyone needs a break so I don’t think it’s weird that you don’t kiss your baby. Babies are a lot of work and a break is good for a few hours to get out and feel like yourself again. It’s a big transition. You got this!

I read the book “Enough About The Baby,” and the author touches on this subject heavily. It is definitely normal but definitely something worth talking to someone about. But know that you’re not alone! I’m not sure if this will help, but I had a rough couple of days after my daughter was born, and I told my friend I feel like I didn’t know the baby that I grew inside me for 9 months. She told me, “You might think you don’t know her, but you are all she knows and she needs you.” And that really helped me snap out of it and see it from a different angle.

@Leslie Ty, I looked up the symptoms and I think I have it 😢 I had depression before and that felt different so I didn’t think that was it this time 😢 I’ll call my doctor.

Aw love! I hope you get everything you need! My inbox is open if you have questions or just need someone to talk to. I went through it with both my older kids. This time with my 3rd baby i felt an instant connection with him so I'm hopeful I will not have it again but I'm still being cautious about it

@Leslie Ty

Hey! I didn’t feel connected. They put me on Zoloft and within 2-3 hours I was connected and it’s the best feeling in the world! So happy you’re getting help

@Mary 🤡👽🦹🏽‍♀️ that’s so great to hear. Thank you so much. I will be starting medication today.