I just need to talk/ vent.

So I’m 37 weeks pregnant, getting ready to have my second daughter via c-section (My first C-section)in 14 days. I have an almost 6 year old step son, and a 18 month old and soon I’ll have a new born. My husband has been considering taking a job in a different state about 6-7 hours away from home. He wants to start 4 weeks after I have baby, the benefits would be amazing and he would be working 7 12 hour days and then home for 7 days and so on, he’d be making almost double what he makes now working half the month essentially, and I wouldn’t have to work anymore according to him. But my problem is that I would be basically jumping right back into doing everything for all 3 kids after a surgery and I just don’t know if mentally I can handle him being gone for 7 days because of some questionable things he’s done recently that has made my trust for him dwindle down a bit. I truly feel like my insecurities would push him away. Because even though I do a lot already on my own because his current job is hard on him, I just feel like I will get some kind of Postpartum depression( I had it after having my first daughter) or something because I’ll be home by myself with 3 kids and raising them by myself and only having help when he’s home if even that because I know he’ll be tired. I’m just struggling with my insecurities and feeling like I won’t be strong enough to do everything on my own after only 4 weeks of healing after my c-section, and then there is the obvious trust issues that recently happened, I just want to cry right now thinking about it all.

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That sounds really rough I am sorry. Your concerns all are valid that is a lot to manage by yourself. As someone who is a single parent who has my kids essentially every day 24/7 cuz we homeschool being on mommy duty 24/7 is something that men have no idea how hard it is!! How isolating it is!! You can’t hang out with friends you can’t go many places cuz a newborn and other kids is a lot. If you need to talk you can talk to me 🫂

If you want my honest opinion i dont know if 4 weeks Is enough for you to heal but i know you can do it. The 7 days on will be hard for you guys but it does go by fast especially because you’ll have your hands full. But I do know the 7 days off would be awesome for both you guys. Maybe if you guys agree to it you guys can save more and maybe go on more vacations? But I think the most important this is having a talk with him before he leave about your worry for trust. And if there is anything he can do mentally and physically to show he he won’t mess up again? I know the situation sucks but would the money be worth it for y’all’s family?

@Echoe yes the money would be worth it because he can make almost 3000$ more a month than what he is making at his current job and what I was making at my job put together. So we would definitely be living a more comfortable lifestyle with extra money to do things we want to do. They are willing to work with him and extend his offer for as long as he needs so it shouldn’t be hard if I need him for an extra week or two after the 4 weeks are up, I guess the trust thing is the one thing I cannot stop thinking about, because he will be so many hours away. But he keeps reassuring me that he wont have the time or energy to do anything other than work and sleep because he will be working so much. For perspective he never has actually physically cheated on me but has done some questionable things that has made me think that if he has enough time on his hands he could do it and easily get away with it. Because I allow things I shouldn’t allow.

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