Struggling as a mum

Hi everyone, this is a difficult thing for me to post but I’m really struggling being a mum. My baby is 13 months old and is lovely most of this time but I’m really struggling with being a good mum. I see everyone else talk about how much they love spending time with their baby or wanting another baby and all I can think is what are you doing differently? It doesn’t help that I don’t have family or many friends in the Uk and my in laws don’t seem to care for my baby. On top of that, I feel really stressed at work because I have a hard stop now whereas pre-baby I was on top of all my work. I also feel ugly because if I wear anything nice, it gets ruined within minutes. I sometimes just want my old life back. I know that’s horrible to say but I’m finding it really hard.

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It's really hard but I'm sure you're doing great. If you're really struggling maybe talk to your doctor? Also really helps to go to baby groups and meet mums of kids the same age for empathy and understanding

@Georgie thank you! Baby groups were really good when I was on mat leave but I’m back at work now so don’t go to these anymore

Looking into IAPT talking therapies and see if it'll help. Feeling rubbish about ourselves is the worst. You're probably doing a better job than you think. Have you managed to just get out for a few hours a little dressed up at all? I mean without bubba. I find they can really help when I feel really rough, just remind myself who I am. I also remind myself this is all temporary, our kiddos will be big before we know it. There are days I want my LG to be bigger, just so I can have a minute to do things

You are doing amazing 🖤 I know it may not feel like it right now but you really are doing amazing. Being a mum is such a difficult job that no one prepares you for. When baby is so young it can feel like we’re consumed by constantly being a mum and nothing else besides. I’m the same as you, I don’t have any family that help or even have involvement. No friends either. I’ve done it on my own for almost 3/4 years now. Now she’s older and in school, I feel like my old self again? So things will get better just give it some time ❤️‍🩹 baby relies on you because they are so young but once they get older your time for you will come back. I know it’s hard to imagine but you will miss these moments xx

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