Advice? // please no judgement

I'm also 6 weeks pregnant- my son is 10 months old and I also have a 7 year old. All I can say it's a very confusing time for you, maybe you could speak to your GP? I don't have much advice but here if you need to chat. Just try and take each day as it comes, you will always have a lovely bond with your daughter but they will also be so close to their sibling as well x

I don’t have any advice but I can tell you my two have the same age gap and my daughter adores her little brother. She talks about him all the time, she adds his name to all the songs she sings, she is constantly running over to him to kiss him and cuddle him, and she always wants to share her food and toys with him. She’s totally besotted. There are obviously moments. Sometimes she gets cross when I’m feeding him for example. But mostly it’s beautiful. I continued to breastfeed her until I was 5 months pregnant when she decided she was done, which was sad for me but totally fine, she just stopped asking for milk. My point is, you’ve got to do what’s right for you, but your daughter may be absolutely overjoyed to have a baby sibling.

As someone who found out she was pregnant when her 1st born was 7 months, I had some similar feelings at first. But as time went on, I felt more and more happy and positive about baby number 2 and being in the 2 under 2 club. I'm ready to have baby number 2 in the next few weeks, and I'm so excited to meet him and for my 1st born to meet his baby brother. However, if you go back 7 and a half months ago I was in tears that my baby wouldn't be a baby anymore. As said previously, it might be worth speaking to a health care provider. Xx

I also had feelings of sadness when I found out I was pregnant when my daughter was a year old, that she wouldn't be my only baby anymore and that I'd have to split my love between 2 children. I also used to cry that I had a limited amount of time left with my eldest as an only child. But I'm now 35 weeks pregnant and can reassure you that I no longer feel that sadness, I'm excited to meet and love my second child, I'm excited to give my daughter a sibling. Like you say they will be so close as they grow up. Also, it's made my daughter's bond with my husband so much closer as we prepare for our new arrival, which they both love. My husband loves having a more active role with my daughter and that's also so important for her. Noone makes her laugh like her Dad and he's her favourite person to play with ❤️ People tandem feed, so you don't necessarily have to stop breastfeeding your eldest either. Of course it's completely your choice and there is no judgement at all, you have to do what's right for you 🙏

I can't tell you what to think or do. I can't say it's easy... but it's all worth it. In the end, my LB was like your girl. We have moments of chaos, and he wasn't very keen at first (he wanted nothing with his baby siter and tried to push her off😅), but over time, we have these interactions. My husband was able to bond with him better, and I still get all the cuddles and attachments. Think as it is your two arms. To be at your best, you depend on them both, and you had learned that quickly. Same for love with your 2 babies it will grow and blossom and become like 2nd nature. Hope this helps.

I don’t have 2 but a close friend of mine does. Hers are that age difference. Since you asked for opinions I’ll share honestly - her life is tough. She confided in me that if she could do it again she wouldn’t have them this close in age. She’s also a teacher by background and has tons of family help. Yes they do sometimes play together and like each other but it’s difficult. At younger ages they don’t learn to fully share or even comprehend that other people are people and not objects until they’re about 4ish years old which means depending on personalities you can deal with constant sibling conflict. She deals with sibling jealousy and tears over her attention on a daily basis - I see it regularly and don’t envy her position. Ultimately it’s your choice! Think about your finances, career plans, vision for what size family you want etc then make your choice.