Child Sexual Abuse!
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@Susie I deeply sympathize for you. Yes my pain and heartache is deeply rooted in the fact that I, his mother can not protect him. I fought with Child protective Services for two month to get a court order for them to investigate the case and they finally won handing over my child to the abuser even if he spoke his truth.The male judge who was in a rush to rule judgement and support his fellow men assuming I faked this to victimize another male who is the father ,is scheduled to pass judgment tomorrow to waive the protective order based on the Child protective order. my only child will be subjected to go back to his abuser for an overnight stay
Can you move? Appeal? Gosh there must be something? What is wrong with this earth? See I never reported my rape because I thought it was futile. Then I was almost raped again a few years later. I decided this time I'll report it and the police didn't even question him, they only questioned me and even asked if I had prior boyfriends or sex before, like WTF. There is so much wrong surrounding laws for SA victims but not believing a CHILD is soooo wild. I'm so mad for you, I'd be going insane at the thought of bub having to go back!
Faked this? Is he serious? Appeal. Get media involved. I'd be in prison for double homicide because both the judge and the father would be un-alived!
It is 2:23am my time and I have been crying since I left the court this morning. I don’t know how to help my child
I'm so sorry 😞 it's evil to be a pedophile but your own child? It's more than evil.
@ Susie I appealed and Child protective service has more power.
I feel powerless with you. This is literally my worst nightmare. If I ever found my husband to lay hands on my boy...words cannot describe the rage I'm feeling.
You represent victims like my child who will be subjected to questioning and investigation for telling your truth and having the courage to expose your abuser. At this point I am so numb and do now know what to do
Is there anything else you have against him? Or can you move away and stay with family? I don't know what else to say, my words can't do anything 😞
Your words are comforting and your sympathy can be felt in my soul. I have a shared legal custody of our son and their is nothing I can do at this point unless I refuse to give the child to his father and be in jail for breaking the custody order
That is just so unfair. Now you're going to basically have to wait for it to happen again before you're back there making another complaint. Because if he's done it once and got away he'll probably do it again. But NO ONE, especially a child should have to go through that twice. I was also molested as a child and the two boys got away with it because it was "two voices against one". I was blamed for "seducing them". It has sat with me forever. I pray that your son is too young to remember. And I'm so proud of you for taking him to a therapist, my parents never believed me.
I can feel your pain the same way I feel my son’s. I won’t report it if it happens again to child protective services as they intentionally ignored the child’s claim and No my son remembers everything that happened. I can’t read certain books with him now that force him to relive his trauma. I will have to think of a way to help him on my own. I am so sorry that your parents don’t believe you. When my son shared it first I just sat down for the whole night trying to put my head around it.
Your poor little boy 😭😭😭 I'm crying in my soul for your son 💔
That's just so crazy! keep fighting for your kid!! At this point it's got nothing to do with the relationship between his father And you. You have to do what's best for your child. I have a similar experience with my dad not so severe, but I have to do what's best for my child! And I've given my dad chances so did child protective Services and my dad failed to show that he was a good man! I constantly tell my dad that it's not about me and him. Can you have supervised visits like can you be present? I would only let my dad watch my daughter or be with her by herself if I was dying or seriously sick! Same with my boyfriend. Like he will not be with my child alone ever under any circumstances and my boyfriend knows this unless I'm in the gym working out for 5 minutes or at doctor's appointment getting something important cosmetic done or getting a cavity filled at the dentist and I will have a camera everywhere! My dad is aware of the camera situation also and he wants to be around my daughter he accepts that.
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Seriously this is so bad! I would be going crazy!!! My best advice to you is keep your sanity, and think clearly your son depends on it! The county that my daughter was born in and where all of this started totally vouched for me where I moved to I'm completely unheard! In fact my daughter is living with my mom while I'm moving and my Mom takes her around "REAL" sex offenders on her side of the family and she was told by CPS not to do this And there seems to be not much being done about it! I just don't understand why we would wait until something else happened! I'm receiving no help, but Things have certainly gotten better. The cost of living was very expensive for a while where I lived And I was busy working part-time and saving all of my money. I've literally been wearing the same pair of sneakers for 3 years they're Nike so it's ok. I will buy myself shoes in 2 weeks.
What about giving your son a cell phone so he can call you? So many cell phones you can set up for children's use only you can ask your cell phone provider to help you out. There are also providers that provide cell phones specifically to children. If he has a tablet you can set up calling on it. I would be doing everything I could. And some of these ideas and advice came from the city that my daughter was born in and where the issue between she and my dad came to my attention.
What about asking Dad to come hang out with his son at your house? My daughter's dad completely refuses to do this! Especially if I'm in a new relationship so I'm doing pretty good as my daughter's dad just sends child support because he wants nothing to do with appropriate visitation. He also is afraid to deal with the court since he knows that it may or may not go in his favor he doesn't want to take the chance. Because it's been that way before where it hasn't gone in his favor of which is where I got the ideas to have him visit with his kid at my place. My daughter's dad was accused by case management of having the potential to shake my daughter when I wasn't around for crying or getting out of hand.
Well my daughter's dad doesn't send child support child support is deducted from his check. And I've now find better resources and I pay a visitation center to visit with my daughter. Of which my mom will bring her there and drop her off with a supervisor who will watch me and my daughter hang out for a little while and then my mom will come and pick her up from this facility. So long as I don't have any contact with my mother I can sit in the waiting room or what have you until my daughter is properly picked up by my mom. If I have to leave I can keep in touch with the visitation center. So sorry for my string of texts! I just feel so bad and have heard this story before! In fact was talking to two ladies last week about something similar she was experiencing with her grandson who's telling her that he's been sexually abused and she doesn't know what to do completely heartbreaking! We all know what happens to us as we grow up as sexually abused human beings! Let's not do that to our children!
@Brittany thank you for letting me know that I am not alone. The father of my child is a walking demon. I don’t feel safe being around him. I made sure I cut all the ties with him. The child custody is what is connecting us. He tried to kill me by giving me drug in my tea back in 2022 and he convinced the court that it was a mistake and he was granted a child custody. I had a court hearing yesterday and I have never seen any male judge as biased as the one ruling our case. During my testimony he kept cutting me off and continued to cut the child justice lawyer. What hurts most is that nobody from child protective services nor this judge was having sympathy nor remorse for my son. The hearing is extending to another day next week. I know the judge is supporting his father and will grant him access to the child. I run to the law for my son and the law and the people in it are not supporting him. At this point I cry out loud to the Lord who gave me this child for justice!
CPS is garbage! This just happened to my friends daughter. He called the cops and the man was taken to jail(he confessed there)
@Sally I agree! I had the hearing last Tuesday and it was a court room from hell. The judge was so rude and it felt like he is my son’s father paid lawyer. I had to keep my 5 years old son in the court kid spot for the judge to ask him for himself from 1:30 till 5pm just for me to learn that he could not rule the case and he extended it till next week. I testified but I could not even finish my sentence as the judge was not willing to listen to any word I say. It is not only CPS that is working against the child but the court system has no checks and balance. You are literally in their mercy. Most judges come with a bias that every mother that goes to the court is there with an intention to take away a child from a father. I don’t believe I won my child and I have no right to take him or give him away. Please pray for my son! I rest my faith in God and let justice be served by the one who cares for my son; God!!
Omg. I literally can't fathom what you and your boy are going through. As a rape victim myself I am LIVID for you. This is my worst nightmare, not being able to protect my son 😞 Are you not able to get a restraining order against his father? PLEASE tell me he isn't allowed to see him anymore!