Second time moms

Ok. I just been having days when I can’t stop thinking about having a second but it’s a weird feeling 😞. I’m not sure if I want to. It’s like some days I do, but some others don’t. How did you guys realized that you really wanted to go for the second? Any advices? My hubby definitely wants 2 but I don’t want to feel that pressure. And I ask now bc I’d prefer they are close in age. Thanks for reading me :)

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You really need to want this all times to go for it.. close in age does not guarantee they will be friends or it would be easier. Mine are 2.5 years apart and the first one is still adjusting due to her personality, some friends of mine have it easier with same gap..

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Thanks, Julia. Does life/ routine change drastically?

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Both of mine were unplanned but I wanted my kids back to back so it worked out regardless
They’re 1.5 yrs apart
There was no realization I wanted a second besides the fact that I’ve always wanted 3+ kids

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We always knew we wanted 3 or 4 so as soon as I was physically able (didn't ovulate till my first was 13 months) we tried and it happened first try. It's hard some days but that's with anything in life

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My second was somewhat unplanned, my eldest is 2.5 but we did definitely want a second and I was happy to get pregnant. It is a lot, I've found this time round very overwhelming (I didn't with my first at all) due to also having a toddler, I do not regret my choice at all but I think if you're not 100% then maybe wait a bit or have a larger age gap.
My daily routine hasn't changed much (apart from being able to do slightly less as I have a small baby) but my son does go to nursery or families 4 days a week which helps, however generally getting anything done is much harder and full of chaos 😅. I also found it hard not being able to give as much one on one attention to my eldest but that'll get easier as baby gets older. Like I say I absolutely love it and wouldn't change it, but it's harder than I thought!
Feel free to message me if you want x

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