Perineum massage 😫

This is both my MIL & partner this time but my partner is starting to learn how to do a perineum massage as I was struggling to do it myself, but tonight when I asked he said ‘oh I spoke to my mum and we don’t need to do that’ Stating that his mum hadn’t hear of it and therefore we don’t need to do it. When I asked more questions she’s convinced him that I’m trying to get him to give me a cervical sweep every couple of days?! She hasn’t been pregnant in decades but seems to think that it’s her way or the high way Just ends up in a passive aggressive row with my partner when I try to explain that she’s wrong, he thinks I’m just dismissing her because we don’t get along and I just automatically disagree with her And does anyone else think it’s a highly inappropriate topic for them to be talking about my vagina like that 😫 feel very uncomfortable

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So is he going to bring mommy into every decision with parenting? When is he going to cut the umbilical cord? I’m afraid this is a very serious conversation to have

Ewww why does she care so much what her son does with his partner? Yes I agree it’s inappropriate for them to be talking about it like that.Also they both need to go back to high school sex ed or at least learn some basic biology because your perineum is nowhere near your cervix 😂 ask him how dilated you are?

Ew this gave me such bad vibes and reminded me that my boyfriend was talking about my breasts with his mom and my milk coming in.. I hate moms like this sorry girl

It’s crazy how much our bodies become everyone’s business when pregnant etc! Assert your boundaries girl!

Does he go to his mum for everything? There is lack of boundaries here, this shouldn't be discussed with his mum. And so for him, his mum is always right? Can you bring him to your next midwife appointment, she will explain to him. But I think you need to have a conversation with him on boundaries with his mum and to trust your judgement more too. Also to do it yourself, you can stand up, put one leg elevated on the side of the bath or toilet, use one thumb to do it.

@Marie I agree he definitely need to go to the next midwife appointment, and specifically say to the midwife, “my partner and his mother are confused about perineal massage, can you explain it to him and he can tell him mum”. Better yet ask for permission to record what she says and forward it to MIL. I find it odd he was discussing your vagina with his mum, he will probably ask for her to Be in the delivery room if this is what he’s like now.

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